Section Six and/or Seven: Seeing The World As It Is – Infinite -AMAZING

• Chapter 9-22:  Language Either Mirrors Love, or Obstructs It: June 22, 1987 and Related Teaching
• Chapter 20:  The Three Levels of Thought: Charting a Course Through Reality
• Chapter 5:  All You See Is Yourself:  The Art of Exploring Perception and Reality
• Chapter 40: How to Embark on a Journey of Insight, Mindfulness, and Cosmic Connection
• Chapter Six: The Liberated Self — Insight, White Holes, and the Boundless Bandwidth of Existence
• Insight as a Faculty Forged in Fire
• Chapter 9-18: Projection and Perception: The Word, the Dream, and the Evolving Self
• Chapter 9-19: Empathy and the Mystery of the Path Between You and Me

Chapter 00:  He Is Having an Experience With God (Jasper 9/17/2026)

Thirty-three years ago, on June 22, 1987, I was healed. Not instantly, and not completely — but enough. Enough to still my hands, quiet my mind, and set me on a path I am still walking today. This is the story of that day, and of the years of darkness that came before it.

The Weight I Carried

I had been an addict since I was fifteen. By 1987, eighteen months of methamphetamine and alcohol had poisoned my nervous system and shattered my mind. My hands trembled constantly, as if I had Parkinson’s disease. Worse, I had begun hearing voices — a constant, third-person narration running beneath my every action:

“He is driving his car.” “He is listening to that man.” “He is thinking that man next to the turnstile thinks he is a piece of shit.”

I never told a doctor. I had watched my ex-wife, diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia, medicated into a shell of herself, and I feared the same fate. So I carried the voices alone, quietly reminding myself that whatever they claimed other people were thinking wasn’t real — only real if spoken aloud, to my face. I had resigned myself to a life of marginal mental health. Three months sober, working the Twelve Steps, I still didn’t believe full healing was possible.

Oh mental marathoner, only on a treadmill you stand,
Second-hand words and thoughts keep you as life’s also-ran.
Your mind forever chases in vain Love’s all-knowing voice —
Be still, for with its end, you will find the true cause to rejoice.

A month earlier, something had cracked open in me. A vision appeared — a woman like the Mona Lisa, holding a baby — and stayed with me for nearly eight hours. My loneliness and depression lifted in her presence, and though the vision faded, it left behind the memory of an unconditional love, and the quiet expectation that something more was coming.

The Mountain

On June 22, I drove out to Larch Mountain, a peak overlooking the Columbia River Gorge, sacred ground to the indigenous people who once gathered there to pray. I didn’t know that history yet. I only knew I needed to be somewhere vast and quiet.

At the summit, I turned in a slow circle, taking in Rainier, Adams, St. Helens, Hood, and Jefferson, with the great river winding far below. I felt, for a moment, as though I stood atop a private observatory built just for me — grateful simply to be alive to see it.

I climbed past a guardrail to a hidden outcrop, away from other hikers, and tried to pray. I was bad at it. My body still trembled, my mind refused to settle. But I showed up. I made myself available.

Oh shadow boxer of evil, when will you ever tire?
‘Tis champion of a lonely dream world to which you would aspire.
Stop resuscitating those dark illusions with your mental pugilist blows —
Open your heart to the Peace of the only One Who All Knows.

And then, slowly, something shifted. A warm breeze carried the scent of pine, pulling me out of my body and my racing thoughts. The mountains, which had felt distant moments before, seemed to draw closer — close enough to touch. The river below felt near. The whole panorama began folding inward, toward me, and I felt something I can only describe as beautifully unusual — the same sensation I’d felt during the vision a month before.

The separation I had always carried — from the world, from other people, from whatever I understood God to be — began to dissolve. I was no longer looking at the mountains. I was them. Nothing existed outside of my own self, and everything I would ever see, unto eternity, was simply an extension of that self.

Then a voice spoke — calm, matter-of-fact, arriving in the same third-person register that had tormented me for a year:

“He is having an experience with God.”

But this time, the voice carried no menace. It carried truth.

The Silence After

The mental chatter stopped. Completely. For the first time in my life, my mind was quiet — not through force or discipline, but because there was, for the first time, nothing left to argue about. I held my hands out in front of me. Steady. No tremor. Hands that couldn’t sign my own name an hour earlier were suddenly still.

I asked myself a new question, one that would follow me for the rest of my life: How will I see myself today?

I looked around and saw family everywhere — every person a brother or sister, every living thing kin. I looked within and, for the first time, saw only myself looking back. The third-person narrator that had haunted me for a year fell silent, and never returned.

Oh please wake up to Love’s voice, sweet somnambulator,
And realize the eternal truth that I within you is greater
Than any self-made or historical image you have created or learned —
Then your world will reflect the One for which you have long yearned.

Recovery, I understood then, was never just about abstaining from drugs and alcohol. It was about dismantling every pattern of thought that kept me from loving the world and the life within it. I could not live fully while still harboring indifference, hatred, or self-loathing. Healing meant releasing the emotional locks that kept me from others — and from myself.

Coming Down the Mountain

I drove back into Portland that same afternoon, carrying a new question with me: Where are my people?

I walked into the Postal Service’s employee assistance office, where I had once been a struggling, active alcoholic on staff. Larry and Mike, who ran the program, didn’t recognize me at first. When I told them my name, they were floored — Mike said I looked “radiant.” I told them plainly: I was having a spiritual experience. They hugged me.

Riding that momentum, I visited the head of Personnel, apologized for the years I’d spent working there while drunk, and asked to see John Zimpleman, the man who had once overseen my poor performance. He listened, moved, and told me he wished his own son could find whatever I had just found.

Days later, at Powell’s Books, I ran into my former psychiatrist, Dr. Dan Beavers, standing in the metaphysical section. He didn’t recognize me either — the last time he’d seen me, he’d wondered how much longer I would survive without medication. I told him the truth: I never took it the way he’d intended. I had found another way to live, one built on accepting full responsibility for my thoughts, feelings, and actions. He congratulated me and told me I owed him no amends at all.

Each of these encounters became small proofs of the same discovery: healing wasn’t a private event locked inside me on a mountaintop. It was meant to be carried back down, offered outward, given away.

To be in realization of truth is to find God’s high mount is yet another illusion to climb,
Created by hateful, fearful, desirous minds stuck on the merry-go-round of time.
The unillumined, restless mind remains forever bereft of Love’s rhyme and truth’s reason,
And it only chases after mirages, until it sees that all its movements are guilty of treason.

I did not know it yet, but the question I’d asked on that mountain — where are my people? — would define the next chapter of my life, and every chapter after it. The healing had begun. The search for a community to share it with was just starting.

Chapter 9-22:  Language Either Mirrors Love, or Obstructs It: June 22, 1987 and Related Teaching

Friends often remark that I have built a life of my own design—a path less traveled, winding through wild terrain rather than following the paved road. It is not a life defined by acclaim or tidy resolutions, but a composition of change and quiet growth, assembled in its own imperfect yet meaningful way. This chapter will eventually focus on an extraordinary year—1987—when I first encountered humanity’s, and my own, profound capacity for healing. Drawing from memory, I feel compelled to trace a record of unrefined experiences, hard-won lessons, and a few luminous revelations, all gathered around that single, pivotal year.

To convey the significance of that time, I will return to my past and examine a few telling fragments from the years before the awakening. My aim is not a polished account softened by hindsight, but an honest, unguarded reflection—one that acknowledges the sharp turns and deep valleys of a life often lived without skill or awareness.

The Era Before Awakening

When my social circle finally widened, it filled with those the world had largely overlooked: the outcasts, the dreamers, the rebels, the misunderstood. Few in number, they became my first teachers in loyalty and acceptance. They showed me that worth is not always visible at a glance.

Books became my refuge, particularly the boundless worlds of science fiction. In the pages of distant places, I found a comfort this world could not offer. Robert Heinlein’s Stranger in a Strange Land proved especially formative. Its protagonist, Michael Valentine Smith—an infant survivor of a failed Mars mission, raised by Martians—arrives at a profound realization: “Thou art God.”

This idea planted a quiet, subversive seed in me. It suggested that perhaps life—and even I, in my brokenness—might hold a measure of the divine. It became an anchor as I made my way through the difficult years of early life.

Adolescence marked a turning point, though it turned toward darkness. By fifteen, I had fallen into the grip of drugs and alcohol. These substances offered a deceptive comfort, a chemical numbing against intense anxiety, loneliness, and the persistent ache of self-doubt. They promised relief but delivered only distance. As a child, I had often longed, in my own words,

“to just get off of this rock.”

I dreamed of escape—as an astronaut, an alien abductee, or through some impossible breach of reality. I wanted to break through the surface of this flawed world and step into something purer.

Despite the turmoil within, I maintained an outward appearance of academic success, hoping achievement might rescue me from my discontent. I excelled on standardized tests, earned scholarships from the University of Portland, the Oregon Scholarship Commission, and the U.S. Air Force, and secured a place in the Air Force ROTC program. But the foundation was unstable. A broken relationship—mirroring the turbulence within me—undid everything. The collapse was complete. I abandoned my ambitions of reaching the stars and returned to a hard, unforgiving reality. Pharmaceutical treatment held my mentally ill wife together long enough for us to marry on September 17, 1979. Eight months later, those supports failed, and she was institutionalized at the Oregon State Hospital, formerly known as Dammasch State Hospital until 1995.

The Grammar of Separation

My internal landscape during this descent carried a peculiar linguistic fracture, and it matters more than it might first appear. We tend to assume our inner monologue is mere commentary, a passive ticker tape of thought. But the language we use within the quiet chambers of our skulls does not merely describe reality—it constructs it. And I had built a reality of fragmentation through the grammar of my own existence.

I rarely spoke to myself as “I.” Instead, a relentless, critical narrator described my life in the third person.

He needs to stop.

He is a failure.

He is dying.

This was not eccentricity; it was alienation. By referring to myself as an object—a “he” rather than an “I”—I created a safe, critical distance from the raw vulnerability of being alive. I had severed the spiritual tendon binding soul to body, watching my life from the shore as the ship carrying much of my essence drifted away.

Even as I spiraled, a part of me—perhaps that seed Heinlein planted—searched for meaning. My relationship with American Christianity was rocky terrain of jagged peaks and deep valleys. I had attended Sunday school but found its teachings irrelevant and incomplete. Its core premise of humanity’s inherent sinfulness never resonated with my soul’s ancient longing for unity. Each time I cobbled together a few weeks of sobriety—which happened perhaps four times across sixteen years of addiction—I returned to Christianity, hoping to find the missing piece. Each encounter left me spiritually malnourished, chewing dry dogma when I craved living water.

I found my living water in 1987.

The Climb to Larch Mountain

I wanted more.

On June 22, 1987, driven by an instinct I could not name, I made a pilgrimage to Larch Mountain. This sacred peak, steeped in indigenous reverence and the ghosts of my ancestors, stands sentinel over the Columbia River valley, offering cathedral-like views of the Pacific Northwest’s volcanic giants: Rainier, Adams, St. Helens, Hood, and Jefferson. I had been sober three months, but the deep wounds of addiction—neurological damage, mental distress, a trembling body—lingered like smoke after a fire.

I climbed over the observation deck’s guardrail, searching for a hidden spot away from the world where I could connect with the spirit of the landscape. I let the beauty wash over me, the light breeze carrying the scent of countless pines like a cleansing ritual. Then I turned inward, attempting the nearly impossible task of silencing the constant chatter. The critical voices that had narrated my life in the detached third person for years responded at first with their usual noise, but in that peaceful place, they slowly and mysteriously faded away.

Then something extraordinary unfolded.

For the first time in my life, the boundaries dissolved. I felt myself physically melting into the natural world. The agonizing separation I had always known—from life, from others, from God—began to vanish like mist in morning sun. Suddenly everything—myself, the granite beneath me, the rushing river below, the endless sky—was one continuous, unbroken field of existence. An ineffable warmth flowed through my veins, richer and more intimate than anything I had ever known. It quelled the mental noise and filled the silence with unmistakable clarity.

Then came the voice. Not the detached, accusing commentary of my inner turmoil, the one that used “he” to belittle. This was a calm declaration rising from the bedrock of consciousness, using the third person one final time to tell me I had touched something far beyond my history and my narrow understanding of human possibility:

“He is having an experience with God.”

These words were not spoken aloud, yet they resonated in the marrow of my bones as undeniable truth. And with that utterance, the stubborn third-person perspective that had plagued my descent into chemical madness vanished. The “he” of my ego, the “he” of my dissociation, was replaced—one final time—by the “He” of the Spirit.

The veil lifted. The tremors ceased. The voices fell silent. Hands that had shaken so violently I could not hold a spoon became steady. The mountains were no longer distant scenery; they were extensions of my own body. The river did not wind away from me; it flowed through me.

Peace enveloped me completely.

This wasn’t about normal seeing or thinking, but about experiencing life in a new way, grounded in the very core of existence itself. The artificial boundaries of “self” and “other” dissolved, and I saw with startling clarity that all of humanity was my family—each person a thread in the great tapestry into which I, too, was woven. Love, which had always felt conditional and transactional, now radiated freely. It extended even to those who had wronged me, those I believed I could never forgive. It was as if God had handed me a lens of boundless compassion and asked me to look through it.

That vision later translated into a teaching, one that few could immediately grasp:

“All that I see, and will ever see, unto eternity, is myself”.

In those timeless moments, I brushed against eternity. It was apocalyptic in the purest sense—an unveiling—and for a fleeting instant I imagined Jesus himself stepping into my mind, pushing aside the old Bruce and replacing him with something far beyond human experience. That stubborn theology training of mine almost managed to pin a name and its familiar ideas onto what was a unique and conceptually naked, indescribable experience.

The Return to the Valley

As days became weeks, then months, then years, one realization grew unmistakable: I had been remade. All my theology and religious training finally began to make sense. In the Old Testament, God’s name is “I Am.” Jesus said, “Before Abraham was, I am.” The same is true for us once we shed the illusions of self. Jesus was not the distant deity religion had painted, but an enlightened sibling—a prototype for what every human being could become. The “I am that I am” he had embodied now manifested in my consciousness as well.

I no longer needed to travel to the underworld to find truth. I no longer needed to beg someone to listen. A single question would guide me for years to come:

Where are my people?

I drove toward Portland and, pulled by an invisible thread, went straight to the NE Glisan office of the U.S. Postal Service’s Employee Assistance Program. I had worked at the Postal Service from 1975 through 1985, and their EAP was well aware of my chemically distracted nature and the poor work attendance that resulted from it. Mike and Larry had both accompanied me to AA meetings in 1981 and again in 1984—requirements if I wanted to keep my job. After yet another relapse, I called in sick the day after the Fourth of July in 1985 and never returned to work, never even called to tell them my intentions. I had left in shame, a ghost of an employee. Now I walked through the door and greeted Larry and Mike by name. Neither recognized me—the husk of the man they knew was gone. When I told them my name, they were stunned. Mike said I was simply radiant. I told them, matter-of-factly, that I was having a spiritual experience. They embraced me, acknowledging the miracle standing in their office.

I then visited the Personnel Department of the Main Post Office in downtown Portland, where Eleanor Workman acknowledged that I may have been fired inappropriately and offered to help me reapply for my old position.

“No thank you, Eleanor,” I said gently. “I just wanted to apologize for working here so unhappily for so many years.”

I then asked for and received a meeting with John Zimpleman, the head of Plant Maintenance, to atone for my poor performance from 1980 to 1985, when I worked as an electrician and electronic technician trainee. He listened, deeply moved, and confessed he wished his own son could find what I had found.

Two days later, searching for a book at the world-famous Powell’s Books, I encountered my former psychiatrist, Dr. Dan Beavers, in the metaphysical section. He did not recognize me until I spoke my name.

“Bruce, this can’t be you,” he stammered. “Last time I saw you, I was wondering how much longer you could survive if the medication didn’t turn your life around.”

“Dan, the medication worked fine,” I replied. “I just never used it the way you intended. I found a new way to live—without medication, drugs, or alcohol. I accept full responsibility now for my thoughts, my feelings, my behavior. The schism in my mind appears to have healed.”

“Bruce,” he said, “that is the outcome I want for every patient. Congratulations.”

I drove up to my ex-wife’s home near Camas, Washington, and made further amends—an amazing exchange I will cover in depth later in the book.

That August, still searching for where I belonged, I went to the International New Thought Alliance Conference in Portland. I was mainly drawn to hear Jack Boland, the renowned recovering alcoholic and new thought leader behind the tape series *12 Steps to a Spiritual Experience*, which I had listened to before my healing vision on May 24th.

But I found so much more—hearing several globally recognized thought leaders, including the captivating Barbara Marx Hubbard, who completely held my attention. I saw over a thousand people embrace the musical group Alliance, who were four gay men, each living with HIV/AIDS, led by Jerry Florence. Having just left a church where gay people were openly condemned, this radical acceptance felt like oxygen to someone drowning. The tenderness I experienced that day still lives in me. Even now, I weep for everyone deemed unworthy or ignored—those reduced to “they” and “them” by a society forever afraid of “we.”

Navigating the New Self

I would be lying if I claimed full awareness of where I was headed. Only in the rearview mirror does a rational narrative emerge. In the spring and summer of 1987, I was a novice on the path of transformation, completely open and almost entirely without a map. Beginning that April, I built a rigorous meditation practice and set committed relationships aside to deepen my focus. When I began working the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous in May—prayer and meditation foremost among them—I created the conditions for a more peaceful mind.

After the contact of June 22nd, my old life began to evaporate. I could still describe the world I had left, but I had no language for the world I was entering. Somehow, that spiritual insight had released the controls of my wounded ego. A new order revealed itself moment to moment. At times I felt like a guided missile—never knowing the destination, but trusting that whatever had launched this new life would carry me to the right place at the right time.

Before 1987, my mind had been a crowded room filled with other people’s ideas about me and my own miscreations. I was addicted to the duality of perception that breeds endless background noise—the cacophony of “yous,” “theys,” and “hims.” By June, that committee had permanently adjourned. There was only one peaceful presence, one new ordering principle: the I Am.

The small story I began to tell did not always meet a friendly reception. When I shared my experience, I was met with silent stares, abrupt subject changes, suggestions to attend more religious training classes to get in better alignment with established dogma, or simple disinterest. My family still viewed me through the lens of the past; my history had scarred their psyches. Yet they could see that the new me no longer required their worry. I was independent, upright, conscious. I made healthy choices and chose a fulfilling life to replace the wreckage. I was a boy again and learning the ropes, meeting friends, while sipping from inner healing springs.

For two years—from that June on the mountain until I met my wife Sharon in the July of 1989 at A Course In Miracles discussion group meeting—I spent more than six hours a day in prayer and meditation, taught on inner planes about an awareness and energy that I had been exiled from my entire life. This was not a Christian God or a Jewish God or the Buddha Mind—but those names all pointed toward the energy that I had accessed.

Slowly, the new life sent me back into the old world to live it rather than escape it. I was able to reengineer my egoic existence, so as to more accurately reflect the new energy that I had made conscious contact with and had been transformed by. I began a new career as a union electrical construction worker in 1988. I made hundreds of new acquaintances and engaged in several forms of community building through our local Empowerment Community, a network created by Michael and Diane Sutton in the early 1990’s. I hiked and ran the wilderness trails of Oregon, Washington, Utah, California, and even Peru. I cycled tens of thousands of miles. I ran several ultramarathons across thirty-one miles of Oregon and won them, this trembling body that had once shaken too violently to hold a spoon. I was granted, in the plainest terms, a redo—permitted at last to love my existence and learn from my life instead of hating myself for it.

The Grammar of Existence: A Complete Teaching

What Larch Mountain gave me, in the end, was language—not for the light itself, but for the architecture of separation that keeps us from it. I have no wish to describe the light as the mystics and poets do; that path of via positiva was not mine to undertake. My path was via negativa and via transformativa—the way that opens only after the debris field of human consciousness has been perceived, healed, and cleared.

And yet I must begin with a warning drawn from the very heart of that day, for it is the seed from which this entire teaching grows. When the boundaries dissolved and the voices fell silent, a vision arrived and translated itself into a teaching few could immediately grasp:

All that I see, and will ever see, unto eternity, is myself.

In those timeless moments, I brushed against eternity. It was apocalyptic in the purest sense—an unveiling—and for a fleeting instant I imagined Jesus himself stepping into my mind, pushing aside the old Bruce and replacing him with something far beyond human experience. But notice what happened next, for this is the crux of everything that follows: that stubborn theology training of mine almost managed to pin a name and its familiar ideas onto what was a unique and conceptually naked, indescribable experience.

This is the original temptation, and it is a temptation of grammar. The experience arrived without a vocabulary—conceptually naked, unmediated, free of category. And my conditioned mind rushed in immediately to clothe it, to file it under a known name, to translate “all that I see is myself” back into the borrowed pronouns of an inherited religion. The unveiling revealed a reality with no “other” in it—a continuous, unbroken field in which the he and the they had no place to stand. Yet the moment I tried to speak of it, the old language reached for its old walls.

So understand this before we go further: the teaching about language is not a clever metaphor laid over a spiritual event. It is the spiritual event, examined in slow motion. The vision showed me a world without separation; my grammar tried to rebuild the separation the very next instant. Everything that follows is the discipline of catching that reflex—of learning to keep the experience naked rather than dressing it in the pronouns of exile.

Here, then, is the teaching at the heart of June 22, 1987.

The words we use are not neutral tools. They are the architects of our isolation or our union. Perception builds reality, and the pronouns we choose—the I‘s, the you‘s, the they‘s—are the bricks with which we construct either bridges to one another or walls that guarantee our exile.

Before we go further, one crucial distinction must be drawn—the kind a careless eye will miss. The same pronoun can perform two entirely different kinds of work.

There is the pronoun turned inward: the grammar of self-talk, where you or he or she becomes a name I give my own self in the privacy of my mind. And there is the pronoun turned outward, where he, she, and they point to other living beings—distinct biological identities who breathe and suffer beyond the borders of my skin.

These two uses are easily confused, yet they wound us differently. The first is a fracture within the self. The second is a severance between selves. To heal the grammar of existence, we must first learn to tell them apart.

Let us begin with the pronoun turned outward.

Consider the third person used of others—they, them, he, she—when these words name actual people. This is the language of the observer. It places its subject at a distance, and applied to other human beings, it often reduces living people to stick figures, fleshed out only by our opinions or our ignorance:

They need to fix this.

He is difficult.

It is a linguistic push, a subtle dissociation that keeps the speaker safely on the sidelines while everyone else plays out the great mystery of life. The danger is not that the pronoun is grammatically wrong—another person is, of course, biologically a he or a she. The danger is that the distancing pronoun lets me substitute my projection for the actual person. The he I condemn is rarely the man himself; he is the caricature I have built in his place. I mistake my map of him for the territory of who he truly is. This is precisely the reflex I watched in myself on the mountain—the rush to clothe a naked reality in a name—turned now upon other people instead of upon God.

Now turn that same third person inward, against the self—

She needs to do better.

He always messes this up.

—and it becomes something darker: an alienation from one’s own soul, a way of viewing oneself as an object to be critiqued rather than a subject to be inhabited. Here there is no other person at all. There is only me, split from myself, narrating my own life as though I were a stranger watching from across the room. I know this intimately. I lived inside that he for sixteen years.

The self-referential second person—you—is more intimate, but still divided.

You can do this.

Why did you say that?

This, too, is the pronoun turned inward. Note the difference carefully: it is not the you I address to another person standing before me, but the you I aim at myself. It splits the self in two—actor and critic, coach and player. Occasionally useful for motivation, a steady diet of this inward you nonetheless presupposes a fracture in the psyche. To refuse the I is to refuse full ownership of our experience.

So we now have two distinct ailments. Inwardly, the self-referential you, he, and she exile me from myself. Outwardly, the other-referential they, him, and her exile me from my fellow beings—not because those people are not genuinely other, but because the distancing pronoun tempts me to replace them with my own fearful inventions.

Both are failures of inhabitation. In the first, I fail to inhabit myself. In the second, I fail to grant others the dignity of being inhabited subjects in their own right—becoming instead an internal gatekeeper, controlling their image to fit my narrative.

If perception creates reality, then the outward third person, wielded carelessly, creates a reality of fragmentation. When I regard my family, my neighbors, and my colleagues as a mere collection of theys—as objects rather than subjects—I sever the spiritual tendon that binds the collective body. Life will return evidence of this to me in plain, measurable terms.

And here the grammar reveals its most dangerous architecture: the division of the world into us and them. This is the outward third person weaponized, the wall raised to its full and terrible height. Once a portion of humanity has been relegated to them, they cease to be subjects worthy of inhabiting and become objects to be feared, blamed, or conquered. The peculiar cruelty of this construction is that it always travels in pairs: there is no them without a corresponding us, no exile without a fortress. We imagine ourselves whole, bounded, separate—sealed within the rigid citadel of I, me, mine—and from that fortress we cast outward whatever we cannot bear to see in ourselves.

This is the origin of projection, and here the two ailments converge. The shadow I refuse to own within myself—the inward fracture—does not simply vanish. The disowned material must land somewhere, and so it lands upon them—the outward severance. The failure to inhabit my own self becomes the failure to grant others their full reality.

But this entire architecture rests on a misperception—the same misperception the mountain dissolved when it showed me that all I would ever see, unto eternity, is myself. We are not the sealed, solitary objects our grammar implies. We are porous—permeable to one another, made of the same breath and the same wound, more deeply interconnected than language can easily confess. The them we condemn is, at a level beneath the reach of pronouns, already part of the we. To forget this is to mistake the map of our isolation for the territory of our shared being.

When I practice the first-person pronoun in self-talk, I find greater self-awareness and emotional balance. The I grounds me in the self; the we grounds me in the collective. The unexamined inward he, she, and you leave me floating in a void. The unexamined outward they leaves me marooned behind a wall.

Some insist the outward third person is necessary for objectivity—that to assess fairly, one must detach. Across business, politics, and even therapy, there persists a stubborn belief that emotional distance equals competence. But this confuses clarity with detachment. One can see another person clearly—can even, in plain truth, call them he or she—without severing the heartstring of empathy, without collapsing a living subject into a manageable object. The most damaged institutions are often led by those who treat their people as they rather than we, elevating ego and self-interest above the shared body. True resilience is found not in detachment, but in the radical embrace of the collective.

So the discipline is twofold.

Inwardly: let us move our self-references from the alienating third and second person toward the integrated first person. Let us catch ourselves when we call ourselves you or him, and ask why we are afraid to say I.

Outwardly: when we speak of the human family, catch ourselves when we say they, and ask whether we can honestly say we. And when we must speak of another as he or she, ask whether we are seeing the person—or only our projection of them.

And beneath both disciplines lies the deepest one of all, the one the mountain taught in a single naked instant: resist the rush to name. When something true and unmediated arrives, do not clothe it too quickly in the old vocabulary. Let it remain conceptually naked long enough to be known on its own terms, before the conditioned mind reaches for its familiar walls.

In doing all of this, we do not merely change our sentences. We change our soul, and by extension the reality we inhabit.

I will not pretend this is easy. After thirty-nine years, I am still learning to live by it. Our present era has tested me with a strong urge to distance my identity from those whose values appall me—to file them under them and be done with it. And yet: I am, and we are—even when what we have become under the Trump administration unsettles my peace.

I suspect you feel the same about the times we share.

We all must continue the work of rehabilitating the spiritual damage within the we.

Living Within the Unlimited Bandwidth

The invisible shield in the crucible. In the midst of chaos, you may sense an unseen architecture deflecting the heaviest blows—not mere luck, but the universe quietly redirecting harm, guiding you toward sanctuary when logic promised only ruin.

The symphony of synchronicity. What the uninitiated dismiss as coincidence, you recognize as the dialogue of the cosmos: the exact wisdom arriving the moment you need it, the chance encounter that bends the whole arc of your life.

The quiet oracle within. Beneath the clamor of the ego lies a tranquil, unwavering knowing. It does not shout with anxiety. It waits, and patiently invites you to surrender to a deeper intuition.

The alchemy of empathy. You are drawn to ease the suffering of others—not from obligation, but from the bone-deep recognition of shared existence. It is the Infinite expressing itself through your hands.

The crucible of transformation. You no longer merely endure hardship; you transmute it into wisdom, understanding at last that life is not punishing you. It is sculpting you.

The anchor in the void. Where uncertainty breeds terror in the ego, you carry a paradoxical calm—trusting that you need not control the currents of the cosmos in order to be carried safely by them.

The reverence for the ordinary. You feel an unprompted gratitude that requires no grand catalyst, finding beauty in the quiet poetry of an ordinary hour—evidence of a loving force that holds you regardless of circumstance.

Stranger In A Strange Land

What remains is the metamorphosis itself—the quiet miracle that carries the butterfly out of the caterpillar. If the butterfly could speak, it would tell of flight and open sky, not of the slow crawl through dirt. Yet it arose from a world of ground-dwellers, and that is where all its old stories were written.

Imagine that butterfly returning to its caterpillar friends, eager to describe the life waiting just beyond their reach. Imagine what the response from the caterpillars might be.

Get lost. You were never one of us.

Nice for you to fly, but that’s not for me.

Have you heard about the tasty leaves on that parsley plant?

These are the replies of those who find change threatening, unnecessary, or impossible. But spiritual freedom is precisely this: the release of limitation, and the patient relearning of how to communicate—with one another, and within ourselves. The new life is never reserved for the chosen few. It is available to all.

Each of us carries the inner wisdom of a master teacher, yet that master sits mostly ignored in the unvisited recesses of the heart. On Larch Mountain, I was handed a blank slate and invited to write a new self upon it. The world I had once longed to flee became paradise. Heaven was no longer a distant promise but a living present—a breath, a heartbeat, a now. But I could not drag the old me into that world. I had to leave my baggage at the trailhead—both the words I spoke and the silences I hid behind—in order to stay in tune with the new music.

The Infinite is difficult to relay. It defies the rational mind, though it will eventually speak through a healed one—but only if that mind has first been prepared and made willing, no matter the cost. This is why those who undergo dramatic spiritual experiences so often become poor communicators in the years that follow. I was mute in this way for a long time. I learned, eventually, to let people know me for who I was, not who I had been. Yet I could not articulate the message without tripping up over my words. My hope was by showing what truth wasn’t, it would be possible to have the truth reveal what it really was to any interested seeker, friend or reader. I can’t give anyone God, truth, or the infinite, but I can show how our language leads us astray from the Universe’s magnificence, mystery, and profound healing capacity.

When I tell my story now, I have learned to turn the volume up—especially in the places where I most need to hear myself. Listening to my own voice does not guarantee that others, long conditioned to ignore me or to obfuscate the truth, will listen too. But sometimes a bird sings in the forest even when no other birds are listening. The real miracle was never that others would finally hear me.

The miracle is that I am finally singing—and finally hearing myself.

Can you hear me now?

Can I hear me now?

It has been a great adventure, this life—and it is a quiet fulfillment to have lived long enough, and grown articulate enough, to set a verbal framework around the whole of it. The “whole” will always elude description, our language just cannot describe that which underlies all of existence.

I am what I am, but I am not only what I seem to be.

You are what you are, but you are not only what you seem to be.

We all need a bigger story. We all need more heart, and more healing. And we all need each other to make our stories complete.

So I will ask you what an unhappy childhood once encouraged me to pursue.

Are you ready, at last, to “get off of this fucking rock”?

Not to flee the world—I tried that for sixteen years—but to step into the one that was always here, waiting beneath the noise.

Robert Heinlein said it through Michael Valentine Smith, the Stranger in a Strange Land who looked upon his world and understood:

Thou Art God.

So are you.

So am I.

So are we.

This is the life on the Universe’s unlimited bandwidth.

The door to the infinite is open.

Let us walk through it together.

Namaste.

“If the doors of perception were cleansed, every thing would appear to man as it is, infinite.” —William Blake

Chapter 20:  The Three Levels of Thought: Charting a Course Through Reality

Every thought is an echo of a thinker, a ripple in the vast ocean of consciousness. We often assume the “I” we identify with is the sole architect of these thoughts. Yet, neuroscience reminds us that the origin of consciousness remains one of science’s most profound mysteries. When we think about ourselves, is it merely the “I” reflecting on its own subjective existence, confined by its personal experience? And what happens when our thoughts venture beyond ourselves, to the “You” we encounter?

This exploration will guide you through the three fundamental levels of thought. We’ll journey from the intimate landscape of self-perception to the shared space of interaction, and finally, into the abstract realms of theory and speculation. By understanding these levels—the “I,” the “You,” and the “Them”—we can begin to appreciate the intricate relationship between our thoughts, our perceptions, and the very nature of reality itself. This framework offers a map for navigating our inner and outer worlds, helping us discern where our personal reality ends and a collective or even speculative one begins.

Level 1: The “I” — The Seed of Personal Reality

The first level of thought is the domain of the “I.” This is the realm of self-perception, the internal universe where your personal reality takes shape. It encompasses your thoughts about who you are, your strengths and weaknesses, your deepest desires, and your most persistent fears. The “I” is the thinker contemplating itself, a consciousness looking inward.

Imagine standing before a mirror. The reflection you see is a manifestation of this first level. It’s not just a physical image but a complex collage of your self-assessments, memories, and aspirations. This is your subjective reality, a universe uniquely yours, built from the raw material of your personal experiences. Every thought tethered to “I am,” “I feel,” or “I believe” is rooted in this foundational level of consciousness. It is the seed from which all other perceptions grow, the anchor point of our existence.

However, this personal reality is, by its nature, limited. It is a viewpoint from a single position in the vastness of existence. While it feels all-encompassing, it is just one interpretation of the world. Understanding the “I” is the first step in recognizing the boundaries of our subjectivity and preparing to engage with realities beyond our own.

Level 2: The “You” — The Growth of Interactive Reality

Moving beyond the self, we encounter the second level of thought: the “You.” This level represents our engagement with the world outside our consciousness. The “You” is everything and everyone we can interact with, a collective reality we negotiate through our senses and thoughts. It is the bridge between our subjective world and the objective world we appear to share with others.

Picture a conversation with a friend. As you exchange words, ideas, and emotions, you are operating within the level of “You.” Your personal reality (“I”) intersects with another’s, creating a shared space—an interactive reality. This collective experience is shaped by the constant interplay of individual perspectives. Your thoughts influence your friend, and their thoughts, in turn, influence you. This dynamic exchange is how we build relationships, form communities, and create a shared understanding of the world.

This interactive reality is not limited to people. It includes any object or entity we can perceive and engage with directly. When you touch a tree, read a book, or listen to music, you are interacting with an objective reality or a “You.” Your senses provide data, and your thoughts interpret that data, creating a consensual reality that feels objective and stable. It is the world we navigate daily, a tangible plane of existence built on direct experience and mutual understanding. It is the plant that grows from the seed of the “I,” reaching out to connect with its environment.

Level 3: The “Them” — The Forest of Abstracted Reality

The third and most expansive level of thought is the “Them.” This is the realm of abstraction, speculation, and theory. It deals with concepts, ideas, and entities that exist beyond our direct sensory experience. While the “I” is personal and the “You” is interactive, the “Them” is purely conceptual. It is the world we build with our minds, populated by thoughts about what might be, what could have been, or what exists in places we cannot reach.

Consider a scientist formulating a theory about a distant galaxy. This galaxy is not something they can touch or interact with directly. It exists for them as a collection of data points, mathematical models, and imaginative leaps. This is the essence of the “Them.” It encompasses everything from historical events and philosophical ideas to scientific theories and spiritual beliefs. It is a reality constructed through logic, intuition, and speculation.

This level is also the most susceptible to illusion and fantasy. Because it is not grounded in direct experience, our thoughts about “Them” can easily stray from what is objectively real. This is where grand narratives, complex belief systems, and even personal delusions are born. The analogy of the forest is fitting here. The seed of the “I” grew into the plant of the “You,” and now it contemplates becoming part of a vast forest. This forest of “Them” represents a potential cosmic consciousness, a universal reality that is both subjectively and objectively true. Yet, whether this forest is real or a grand illusion remains a central question of human existence.

A Synthesis of Thought

The three levels of thought—the “I,” the “You,” and the “Them”—are not separate silos but interconnected dimensions of our consciousness. Our personal reality shapes how we interact with the world, our interactions inform our abstract thinking, and our abstract ideas can, in turn, reshape our sense of self.

By understanding this framework, you gain a powerful tool for self-awareness and critical thinking. You can begin to distinguish between your subjective feelings, your shared experiences, and your speculative beliefs. This clarity allows you to navigate the complexities of life with greater wisdom, recognizing the limits of your own perspective while appreciating the vastness of what lies beyond.

Embracing these levels of thought is an invitation to a deeper mode of being. It encourages you to honor your personal truth, engage authentically with the world around you, and explore the limitless horizons of your own mind with both courage and humility. The journey through these levels is the journey of consciousness itself, a path of continual growth and discovery.

Chapter 5:  All You See Is Yourself:  The Art of Exploring Perception and Reality

Have you ever found yourself startled by your own reflection in a window, a mirror, or a fleeting glimpse of glass? One moment of unexpected recognition stirs curiosity, perhaps discomfort, as it pulls you momentarily into a state of self-awareness deeper than usual.

Who is it that I am seeing?

Is it merely my body, my image, or something entirely internal and imagined?

This mundane yet profound interaction with our own reflection mirrors a larger truth about how we perceive not only ourselves but the world around us. At every moment, what we see, feel, and believe isn’t the external world or reality itself but our mind’s exquisite, personalized reconstruction of it. Neuroscience, philosophy, quantum physics, and ancient spirituality each offer fascinating ways to understand this phenomenon, yet they all converge at one undeniable idea—we are witnessing ourselves in everything.

Our senses offer a rich, stunningly detailed experience of the world, yet what we experience is an intricate creation of the mind. Neuroscience shows that perception is not direct input; rather, the brain actively interprets sensory information to build a unique inner reality.

Take vision as an example. The eyes take in light, but the brain processes and reconstructs that input into coherent images to make sense of what surrounds us. But as Nobel Prize-winning neuroscientist Gerald Edelman argued, this process is interpretive, and each individual’s perception results in slightly different inner realities.

When we extend this understanding to others, it becomes clear that no one sees us as we see ourselves. Their brains, informed by their own sensory inputs, personal histories, and imaginations, construct an entirely different “you” than the one you hold within your mind.

These revelations are not new to human thought. Philosophers like Immanuel Kant posited centuries ago that reality, as we perceive it, is shaped more by our mind’s faculties than by external objects themselves. Kant argued that the world we “see” is phenomena, shaped by the categories of time, space, and causality that our minds impose.

Similarly, Plato’s allegory of the cave suggested that the images we perceive are mere shadows of the ultimate reality. Everything we see is filtered through a subjective lens that limits us to glimpses of the truth.

Bringing this understanding into contemporary conversations, consider the implications of quantum theory. The observer effect reveals that the very act of observing at the quantum level alters reality. Are we, through our perceptions, creators as much as we are observers?

The way we perceive ourselves fundamentally affects how we perceive and interact with the external world. Psychological research confirms that self-perception and confidence influence how we interpret experiences, from personal relationships to career decisions.

For example, people with high self-esteem are more likely to see opportunities in ambiguous situations, while those with low self-esteem may perceive obstacles instead.

Could it be, then, that changing how we perceive ourselves could alter how we see the entire universe?

As we gaze upon our world, the multitude of other humans, plants, animals, geography and scenery, the sky and the nighttime stars, are we not also only witnessing ourselves, and our own internal imaginal representations?  We carry those perceptions of the objective reality within our minds, forever linking us, at least perceptually.

what is “out there” and physically separate from us is not connected in any material way, for as our bodies move in one direction the objects of perception do not move in tandem in any obvious physical way.  Yet, mysteriously, we are also fundamentally and perpetually linked beyond the purview of our perceptions.

The challenge lies in going beyond this constructed world of perception and ego. The ego, that sum total of our judgments, conditioning, trauma, and experiences, tends to act as a filter over reality, comforting us with familiarity but limiting us to our own patterns of thought and assumptions.

What if we could release this filter—to see without judgment, without time, and without the observer imposing itself on the observed? Here, spirituality offers wisdom. Teachings from Zen Buddhism and Advaita Vedanta often point to the interconnectedness of all things and encourage practices like mindfulness and meditation to dissolve these artificial boundaries created by the ego.

Once, during an evening meditation, I whispered a mantra born of a deep desire for truth. “Master teacher of the light,” I repeated slowly, seeking focus and surrender. The next moment was a shift of breathtaking magnitude—I had a choice to continue steering my mind along its usual grooves or release control entirely.

I chose release. What unfolded was an exhilarating rush that moved me beyond myself, beyond identity, and into a space of infinite silence. I was home in emptiness, my essence merging with something vast and unnamable. A joyous “voice” emerged through me, affirming truths I had never understood before, like how perception binds us and how freedom comes in its mastery.

One statement echoed in my mind for years to follow, “You can’t be real.” It was not a threat but an invitation, reminding me that the ego is not the truth, just a structure obscuring the vast reality of interconnectedness.

The question remains, how can we, in our daily lives, step beyond the chains of perception and ego to witness the infinite reality within ourselves and the world?

Practices such as meditation and mindfulness offer pathways to peel back layers of constructed reality. Sitting quietly and observing thoughts without judgment can help dissolve the barriers between the observer and observed, allowing pure awareness to emerge.

Conversations in quantum physics suggest we are not passive participants, observation shapes reality. Why not become conscious of the countless ways our perceptions limit us and experiment with how releasing judgment, rigid self-perception, or attachment to past experiences and traumas amplifies freedom and clarity?

To perceive the universe as vast, interconnected, and infinite is to glimpse something extraordinary about ourselves. Indeed, all you see is yourself—but not in the limited sense you might imagine.

If all that we perceive is ourselves, are we as vast as the earth, or even the universe itself?  Certainly, we could never perceptually experience that, even if it is the truth, as long as we cling to isolating, limited perceptions of ourselves and others.

You are not merely the person reflected in the mirror.

You contain multitudes.

The universe, in its infinite wisdom, uses our awareness as a channel to see itself.

If this is so, what responsibility and privilege do we have to clear the lens of perception as cleanly as we can?

Whether through the introspection of neuroscience, the wisdom of philosophy, or the silent stillness of meditation, a clearer, freer way of seeing is within your reach. Start small—with a few minutes of mindfulness a day. Reflect on how your perceptions shape your experience. Explore interconnectedness in quantum theory or ancient spiritual traditions.

The universe awaits our clear vision. The question is, will we allow ourselves to see it?

Could we observe without the past being present, the past observer, of course, being US?

What would we then see?

Because, in the absolute, all that we see is ourselves.

With pure awareness, the Universe has a chance to witness itself through the channel of OUR pure awareness.

Now how exciting of a prospect is that?

Would you not want to get rid of everything in your mind that would obscure that most glorious vision?

What are you waiting for?

Everything you perceive waiting outside of yourself begins within.

“If the doors of perception were cleansed everything would appear to man as it is, infinite.“-–William Blake

Understanding the Fundamental Mechanism of Perception

In the historic pantheon of human behavior, religion has stood as one of civilization’s oldest pillars. Belief systems and sacred rituals have sculpted societal norms and individual identities. Yet, despite generations of spiritual and religious training and education, humanity collectively fails to grasp the fundamental mechanism of perception. All that we see, and will ever see, unto eternity, is our self.

To understand this concept is to recognize the absolute necessity of broadening our limited vision. We must strive to be more inclusive of the needs of Mother Earth, our animal kingdom, and our international, national, and local neighbors, regardless of their religious, sexual, philosophical, and political beliefs. In fact, the very mechanism of religious and political belief often acts as a pillory, entrapping the conditioned mind, and limiting its intelligence and curiosity.

The concept of universally loving the world and all its inhabitants is undoubtedly beautiful. It paints a utopian vision where compassion and benevolence dominate human interactions. But this is not merely an idealistic endeavor; expanding our vision and fostering inclusivity are vital for the collective survival and spiritual growth of humanity.

Despite the profundity of spiritual teachings throughout history, humanity continues to struggle with the concept of perceiving oneself in everything. Why?

Conditioning and Bias:

Spend time in nature to connect with the larger web of life. Reflect on the interdependence of all living things.

Contemplate the vastness of the cosmos and your place within it to foster a sense of unity and oneness.

A lack of introspection and self-awareness keeps many from realizing the profound truth that all external experiences are reflections of the inner self.

Without this awareness, people continue to operate within the confines of their conditioned perceptions.

From birth, individuals are conditioned by their surroundings—family, society, religion, and politics. These forces shape perceptions and create biases that are hard to dismantle.

Dualistic thinking, which separates “self” from “other,” perpetuates conflict and division.

Ego and Self-Identification:

The ego thrives on the identification with individual and collective beliefs, which hinders the perception of a unified existence.

This identification creates a false sense of separateness, making it difficult to see the interconnectedness of all life.

Lack of Awareness

For spiritual seekers yearning to broaden their vision and understanding, here are practical steps to take:

Practice Mindfulness and Meditation:

Daily mindfulness and meditation practices help cultivate self-awareness and dissolve the illusion of separateness.

Focus on the breath, observe thoughts without judgment, and connect with the present moment.

Engage in Self-Inquiry:

Question your beliefs and perceptions. Ask yourself why you hold certain views and examine their origins.

Explore the teachings of various spiritual traditions to gain different perspectives.

Cultivate Compassion and Empathy:

Practice loving-kindness meditation (Metta) to develop compassion for all beings, including yourself.

Engage in acts of kindness and service to others, recognizing that their well-being is intertwined with yours.

Expand Your Horizons:

Read books, attend workshops, and participate in discussions that challenge your existing beliefs and expand your understanding.

Travel and experience different cultures to appreciate the diversity of human experience.

Reflect on Nature and the Cosmos:

In the vast expanse of cosmic consciousness, where the fabric of existence weaves itself into the tapestry of reality, there lies a profound yet simplistically beautiful truth: all that exists is but a reflection of ourselves. By expanding our vision and fostering inclusivity, empathy, and awareness, we can transcend the limitations of conditioned perceptions and experience the interconnectedness of all life.

In a divisive world increasingly polarized by dualistic notions of right and wrong, us and them, the concept of cosmic consciousness offers a refreshing yet profound alternative. My personal experiences have shown me that the path to true understanding begins with acknowledging that all we see is a reflection of our inner self. Join us in this exploration and discover the profound truth that awaits.

Perception as the Sculptor of Reality

“Mind, the master power that molds and makes, and man is mind. Evermore he takes the tools of thought, and thinking what he wills, creates a thousand joys, a thousand ills. He thinks in secret, yet it comes to pass. Environment is but his looking glass.”

These words by poet James Allen encapsulate a profound truth about the nature of our existence and the universe. They suggest that our reality is not a static, external construct but a dynamic creation of our own minds. This perspective challenges conventional thinking and invites us to explore the depths of our perception and its impact on our lives.

At the core of this contemplation lies the power of perception. Our mind, acting as an intricate filter, processes every shred of information we receive from the world. It interprets, judges, and ultimately colors our experiences. Whether we perceive a situation as joyful or sorrowful, meaningful or mundane, depends largely on our mental framework.

Studies in cognitive psychology support this notion. Our beliefs, biases, and prior experiences shape the way we interpret new information. For instance, a person with an optimistic outlook may see a setback as a learning opportunity, while someone with a pessimistic view might see it as a confirmation of their failures. Thus, our perception has the power to transform our reality, influencing not only how we see the world but also how we interact with it.

The concept that our thoughts and beliefs shape our reality is not new. It resonates with theories from various schools of thought, including cognitive-behavioral psychology and even quantum physics. Cognitive-behavioral theory posits that our thoughts influence our emotions and behaviors, which in turn determine our life outcomes. This idea is echoed in quantum mechanics, where the observer effect suggests that the act of observation can alter the state of what is being observed.

Our minds, therefore, do not passively receive reality; they actively create it. By focusing on positive, empowering thoughts, we can mold our environment to reflect those beliefs. Conversely, dwelling on negativity can manifest adverse outcomes. This creation of reality emphasizes the responsibility we hold over our thoughts and the potential to harness them for personal and collective growth.

Traditionally, the environment is seen as a significant factor in shaping who we are. From our upbringing to our social interactions, external influences are believed to mold our character and destiny. However, when viewed through the lens of perception, the environment becomes a reflection of our inner state.

Consider the metaphor of a mirror. The environment, like a mirror, reflects our thoughts, feelings, and attitudes. A cluttered mind might perceive the world as chaotic, whereas a focused mind sees order and opportunity. By changing our internal landscape, we can alter the reflection we see in the world around us.

Understanding perception as the ultimate reality-shaping tool has profound implications for personal empowerment. It places the power of change firmly in our hands. Instead of being passive recipients of our circumstances, we become active creators of our destiny.

This perspective fosters resilience. When faced with challenges, recognizing that we have the power to reshape our perception can transform obstacles into steppingstones. It encourages continuous self-improvement, as we strive to align our thoughts with our desired outcomes.

Moreover, it promotes a sense of agency. Knowing that our thoughts influence our reality empowers us to take control of our life narrative. We are no longer at the mercy of external forces; we are the architects of our existence.

The mind, indeed, is the master power that molds and makes our reality. By understanding the profound impact of perception, we unlock the potential to transform our lives consciously. The universe, in all its vastness, is a reflection of our inner world. The environment is but a looking glass, mirroring our thoughts and beliefs.

I invite you to reflect on your own experiences. How have your perceptions shaped your reality? What changes can you make within your mind to create a more fulfilling, empowered life? The answers lie within your thoughts, waiting to be discovered and harnessed.

In exploring these concepts, we take a step towards greater self-awareness and spiritual growth. Let’s challenge the conventional, embrace the introspective, and shape our universe through the power of our mind.

The Power of Forgiveness and Observational Influence

When we see an alienated friend and choose to forgive them, we have not changed the friend; we have changed our internal atmosphere. This act of forgiveness is an alchemical process that transforms our emotional landscape, providing us with a sense of relief and liberation. It is crucial to understand that forgiveness is a gift we give to ourselves, a way to cleanse our internal environment. While this act may eventually heal the relationship, its success depends on numerous factors beyond our control. The friend might not even be aware of the forgiveness extended to them, yet the profound change occurs within us.

Consider the simple act of observing the sun as it rises in the morning sky. If our mood is good, the sun is a welcome friend, casting a warm and comforting glow over our day. However, if we greet the sun with a bad attitude, the sun remains unchanged, yet our perception of it can color our entire day with negativity. This analogy underscores the power of our consciousness and how our attitudes and perceptions shape our experiences. The sun, a constant and indifferent celestial body, serves as a mirror reflecting our internal state.

On the quantum level, the act of observation always influences the behavior of what is observed. This phenomenon, known as the observer effect, illustrates the profound interconnectedness between the observer and the observed. It suggests that our very act of perception can alter reality at the most fundamental level. While some changes in perception and observation have a direct impact on our reality, others may appear to have no immediate effect, possibly due to the vast differences in scale between the observer and the observed.

This intricate dance between consciousness and the quantum world implies that our observations, even those seemingly insignificant, contribute to a cosmic rhythm of influence. Our thoughts, feelings, and attitudes ripple out into the universe, creating waves of change that may not be immediately perceptible but are nonetheless impactful. This understanding encourages a more mindful and intentional approach to life, recognizing the potential power of our internal states.

By acknowledging the effects of our observations and attitudes, we can cultivate a more mindful and intentional way of living. This awareness can lead to greater emotional well-being, improved relationships, and a deeper connection with the world around us. Forgiveness, in this context, becomes not just an act of compassion towards others but a profound practice of self-care and spiritual growth.

The interplay between our consciousness and the universe reveals the extraordinary power we hold within ourselves. By choosing to forgive, by shaping our perceptions positively, and by understanding the quantum dance of observation, we can transform our internal and external worlds. This perspective invites us to explore the depths of our consciousness, to engage in self-discovery, and to participate actively in the cosmic rhythm of life.

The Manifestation of the Infinite

I am hardwired to accept that I am the very manifestation of an infinitely loving, creative principle. The universe screams,

“I AM JOYFULLY ALIVE!”

If our heart does not scream this out every moment, that is the distance we have to travel back to our Creator.

Our existence is not a random occurrence but rather an intricate tapestry woven by the threads of an infinitely loving and creative principle. We are not separate from the universe; instead, we are its very expression, each heartbeat a testament to the connection we share with the cosmos. This realization is more than a comforting thought; it is the essence of our being.

Personal growth and fulfillment are deeply rooted in recognizing and embracing this intrinsic connection. By acknowledging that we are manifestations of this boundless creative force, we gain profound insights into our place in the universe. This awareness transforms how we perceive ourselves and our surroundings, fostering a sense of unity and purpose.

The universe’s declaration of life should resonate within us, echoing through our hearts and minds. This resonance serves as a personal compass, guiding us toward spiritual growth and a deeper understanding of our existence. When our heart fails to echo this cosmic proclamation, it signals a disconnection that we must strive to mend.

Bridging the gap between ourselves and our Creator requires daily practices that nurture this awareness. Meditation, self-reflection, and mindful living are essential tools in this journey. These practices help us attune to the universal frequency, allowing us to experience the creative force in every moment.

Living in alignment with the principle of being a manifestation of the infinite leads to a life filled with purpose and compassion. When we understand our role as expressions of an infinitely loving and creative force, we naturally extend this love and creativity to others. Our actions become more meaningful, our relationships more profound, and our impact on the world more significant.

To the spiritual seekers and creative thinkers, the philosophers and dreamers, I pose this challenge: cultivate an awareness of your connection to the universe. Allow your heart to scream,

“I AM JOYFULLY ALIVE,”

and bridge the distance back to our Creator. Through this awareness, we can live lives rich with purpose, love, and creativity, forever resonating with the infinite principle that binds us all.

Chapter 40: How to Embark on a Journey of Insight, Mindfulness, and Cosmic Connection

As we stand upon the sacred terrain of neuroplasticity, we must recognize that the biological rewiring of our minds represents only the threshold of a much vaster odyssey. The conscious repetition and tender dismantling of our inherited neural pathways prepare the physical vessel, but what exactly are we preparing it to receive? The brain, in its exquisite malleability, is not merely a biological engine of survival; it serves as the organic receiver—and, potentially, a transmitter—for a boundless cosmic broadcast. By actively shaping our neural architecture, we clear the static from our perception, enabling us to finally attune to and resonate with the frequencies of existence that previously eluded our conditioned grasp.

Stepping through this doorway of conscious adaptation, we transition from the mechanics of the mind into the profound mysticism of the soul. Here, the structural healing of our nervous system intersects with the eternal pulse of the universe. When we consciously participate in our own remaking, we do not simply achieve superior psychological functioning; we open ourselves to the infinite bandwidth of creation. This is where the biological gives way to the cosmic, inviting us to navigate the intricate, shimmering web of life with awakened eyes and an unburdened spirit.

The pursuit of meaning, clarity, and inner peace is an eternal endeavor, woven intricately into the very fabric of human existence. At times, life may seem overwhelming, fragmented by chaos, and distant from our deepest aspirations. Yet, hidden within the quiet moments of stillness, in the diligent practice of mindfulness, and through the profound revelations of direct insight, lies an unprecedented potential for transformation. These practices act as a compass, guiding us toward profound self-awareness and a renewed connection to the complex ecology of consciousness.

Consider that the universe operates on an unlimited bandwidth of information, energy, and awareness. It is a hum of infinite voltage, a ceaseless transmission of life, love, and death. Yet, our human minds, by default, are tuned to a remarkably narrow frequency—the restricted channel necessary for physical survival, navigating daily routines, and perceiving a linear progression of time. We operate like antiquated radios, picking up only the strongest, most local stations, entirely unaware of the symphonies broadcasting on the frequencies just beyond our reach. This is the station of ordinary reality. However, deep within the human spirit resides an inexhaustible curiosity to adjust the dial, to explore the static and the harmonies that lie just beyond our standard perception. We inherently yearn to understand the cosmic grid we are plugged into.

True transformation has never been an abstract concept for me—it has wound its way through my own history, dancing between my wounds and my wisdom like shadow and sunlight across the years. As Eric Hoffer once noted, “Many of the insights of the saint stem from their experience as sinners.”

To facilitate authentic awakening and healing, we must reject the precedent established by our wounded pasts, aspiring instead to become our own saviors, armed with awakened powers of understanding and compassion. Cultivating new thoughts not based upon wounded memories is essential. Otherwise, we merely continue layering over our unexamined, embedded belief structures with another coat of paint, while our decaying house of consciousness trembles upon its ever-eroding foundation.

There are no quick-fix solutions. Our culture has been sustained on spiritual and religious fast food for much too long. What is next in the queue for us?

• Drive-through healing?

• Five-minute meditations for transformation and prosperity?

• New diets that guarantee weight loss and immortality?

• Books that claim all your prayers will be answered if you simply follow the one special method promoted by the latest popular author?

• A magic pill that wipes away all difficult memories and brings pleasure where there was once only pain?

To transcend the illusion of these hollow panaceas, we must first anchor ourselves in the disciplined pursuit of insight. True evolution requires the courage to observe our internal landscape without flinching. Mindfulness acts as the foundation of this work, allowing us to witness our inherited scripts, deeply ingrained traumas, and reactive loops without immediately identifying with them. Through this rigorous, daily stillness, we cultivate genuine insight—the kind that pierces through the superficial layers of our conditioned reality to reveal the authentic, unvarnished self beneath.

Yet, even with dedicated mindfulness, certain neural pathways—forged by profound trauma and decades of cultural programming—remain stubbornly rigid. It is here that the intentional, sacred use of plant medicine, specifically psilocybin mushrooms, can serve not as an escapist quick fix, but as a profound catalyst for cognitive and spiritual liberation. By temporarily quieting the brain’s default mode network, psilocybin strips away the ego’s relentless chatter and survival-based filtering. This dissolution allows us to step outside our habitual frameworks and perceive the raw “is-ness” of existence, experiencing firsthand the cosmic bandwidth we usually tune out.

When approached with deep reverence, the proper setting, and rigorous psychological integration, these entheogenic journeys deeply amplify our capacity for mindfulness. They act as a cosmic tuning fork, recalibrating our internal frequencies to harmonize with the boundless energy of the universe. This sacred synthesis of daily contemplative practice and deliberate plant medicine exploration invites a monumental leap in human consciousness, empowering us to finally dismantle our inner prisons and step fully into our infinite spiritual potential.

I have seen firsthand that growth is often born from the crucible of struggle; my most valuable realizations have emerged precisely when I navigated moments of profound darkness, both within and without. Much of my journey began with the simple act of observing myself—really observing, not just my thoughts swirling like autumn leaves, but the deeper behaviors, ingrained patterns, and ancient beliefs looping through my life. I remember the discomfort and anxiety that would bubble up when I first sat quietly, contemplating the roots of my own pain. In those early days, mindfulness was not a buzzword; it was a lifeline and a lantern.

Reflecting on my childhood and the culture I was raised in, I trace how so many of the stories that guided (and misled) me were inherited. For years, I lived out scripts passed down by family, community, and ancestors—scripts of limitation, shame, or expectation that, unchecked, ran my life. My healing began when I dared to examine those stories: to see which belonged to me and which I’d only borrowed out of a desire to fit in.

This lesson became painfully clear during a fourth-grade science experiment. Mr. Hill, our Principal and co-teacher, wanted to teach the students about the power of observation. He heated a portable electric stove, grabbed a thin sheet of metal with insulated tongs, and set it onto the burner. The metal immediately began to distort in size, becoming disfigured. I watched, yet I had no words to describe what I had just witnessed. Struck dumb by the mystery of the event, I peered at the notes of classmates on either side of me and copied their words to avoid standing out. From that early age, I understood how easily the mystery of life—our direct, raw experience—can be substituted with secondhand descriptions and beliefs. The description is never the actual event, yet those who lack the experience often copy and worship the description, overlooking the miracle happening right under their noses.

This pattern continued. In my junior year in high school, I was required to keep a daily journal of my innermost thoughts. Empty of complete statements about myself, I bought Hugh Prather’s Notes to Myself, copied his statements, and tried to personalize them so I wouldn’t look like a fraud. I got my passing grade and continued on my awkward, highly dysfunctional path. When I entered my freshman year at the University of Portland in 1973, I was lost again, having no internal maps to guide me. The use of pot, alcohol, and relationships with emotionally diseased people continued in earnest, obscuring any clear vision of my goals. The absence of personal honesty and insight doomed me to a deteriorating life experience, trapping me in a prison with interior windows sometimes only opening to Hell.

The Windshield Wipers of the Mind

We do not see the world as it is; we see it as we are. To truly heal and evolve, we must confront how our internal chaos is projected onto the canvas of reality. Consider the parable of a man who got into his car, blasted Jimmy Cliff’s “I Can See Clearly Now” on the stereo, and drove straight into a blinding rainstorm. He never turned on his windshield wipers. After crashing head-on into another vehicle, he told the investigating officer, “I did everything right. I was playing the right music… I just did not think that I needed my windshield wipers.”

For far too many of us, the “music” playing in the background is our religious, spiritual, or philosophical conditioning. Many seekers believe that their inner work is complete once they have memorized the right dogma, aligned with the beliefs of their community, or experienced a fleeting moment of transcendence. This phenomenon is known as spiritual bypass. If we possess only intellectual knowledge but lack deep, contemplative insight, our journey has barely begun.

What, then, are the windshield wipers of the mind? They are our profound capacity for taking an ongoing personal inventory. They represent the active, relentless practice of mindfulness, the development of piercing insight, and the willingness to make necessary course corrections in our lives. Just as a torrential rainstorm obscures the view through a glass window, our unexamined thoughts, unconscious biases, and turbulent emotional weather continuously distort our perception of reality. If we do not activate our mental wipers to clear away these distortions, our unconscious actions will inevitably cause harm—both to our own souls and in our relationships with the world.

We cannot simply rely on external saviors, shifting our personal responsibility to deities or dogmas. To expect an external force to clear our vision while we refuse to engage in self-examination is to abdicate our spiritual sovereignty. True power lies within our own willingness to turn on the wipers, to sweep away our illusions, and to adjust our path so that we might continuously evolve and vibrate in deeper resonance with the cosmos and with one another.

Attempting to heal without this ongoing inventory is akin to slapping a fresh coat of spiritual paint over a rotting house. In recovery circles, this is known as the “look good”—curating a pristine exterior while the interior remains untouched and decaying.

I confronted my own resistance to this rigorous self-honesty in April 1984, when I checked into the Care Unit at Portland’s Lovejoy Hospital. A core component of our treatment was keeping a daily journal to track our “internal weather.” Yet, I found myself paralyzed, entirely uncomfortable exploring my inner landscape. Instead of activating my own wipers, I tailored my words to please others, claiming their mistakes as my own just to avoid facing my authentic self. While that early attempt at intensive recovery did not immediately succeed—ushering in an even darker three-year storm—it planted the vital seed of desire for inner peace. I eventually learned that living an examined life requires us to honestly chart our internal weather, engage our mental windshield wipers, and continuously clear the glass so we might finally see the world, and ourselves, with cosmic clarity.

Encounters with the Infinite: Psychedelics and the Cosmic Circuitry

While disciplined mindfulness and spiritual inventory provide the necessary grounding, my early life also included glimpses into the wider frequencies of the cosmic bandwidth through alternative means. In the early 1970s, during high school, I used LSD nearly twenty times. The first instance was serendipitous; I ingested a quarter of a pill before heading to the downtown Portland library. About an hour later, pure euphoria washed over me—a profound sense of peace and an unconditional love for everything. It was a chemical preview of the unity I would later seek. I also tried DMT, feeling an incredible, telepathic kinship with every stranger I met. The barriers of fear dissolved.

Yet, psychedelics in my youth were a delightful vacation from my troubled life, not a tool for integration. I lacked the spiritual and emotional maturity to process them. By 1979, after a difficult trip left me fearing I’d be stuck in an anxious in-between state, I ceased using LSD.

We must also address the substances that act as resistors. Alcohol is seductive in its ability to numb. I drank to drunkenness from ages 15 through 30, and only much later learned to embrace alcohol fully consciously so historical habits wouldn’t take over. Cannabis, too, obscured my path. Smoking it nearly every day in the 1970s stunted my emotional and spiritual growth, replacing active creative expression with passive observation. It wasn’t until total sobriety began in 1987 that my mind matured to the level it should have reached years earlier.

For four subsequent decades, my spiritual connection had been cultivated through a series of profound insights, meditation, mindfulness, Twelve-Step work, and healthy living. Yet, the human experience often reveals obscured terrains where neural circuits have grown too entrenched. In October 2022, I attended a 14-hour spiritual retreat where a psilocybin elixir was administered—my first foray into the psychedelic realm since the 1970s. Guided by an experienced facilitator, I slipped into an altered state, shedding the rigid architecture of verbal cognition to witness the world, and my own being, with an acute, non-verbal awareness.

The profound gift of the psychedelic communion, when approached with the reverence of proper “set and setting,” is this sudden dawn of direct, unmediated insight. Trauma often acts as an insidious architect, locking the brain into rigid paradigms and high-alert feedback loops. Even spiritual education, accumulated over decades, can inadvertently carve deep ruts for our neural pathways rather than expanding our capacity to perceive the infinite. Psychedelics possess the unique capability to dissolve these hardened networks—specifically the Default Mode Network—allowing us to witness the pure “is-ness” of reality, stripped of the interference of personal and cultural conditioning.

The Autoimmune Realization: Healing the Divide

During that immersive retreat, my facilitator posed a piercing question: why did I not recognize myself as a beautiful being? I answered from the echoing chambers of my conditioned mind, cataloging my aging physical vessel, the flare of psoriasis, the marks of skin cancer, surgical scars, and the maps of wrinkles. I had profoundly forgotten to consciously cultivate reverence for my physical form or express gratitude for its enduring existence. My facilitator gently observed that if my perception of beauty was strictly an interior phenomenon, I was living entirely exiled within my “head space.” True beauty emanates from the totality of being—body, mind, and spirit—entirely independent of the uninformed projections of the external world and the shadows of my own diminished self-esteem.

In that exalted, lucid state, a revelation struck with the force of a thunderclap: I had an autoimmune disease because I was attacking myself.

This physical manifestation of illness was inextricably rooted in a deep-seated self-negation, born from the embers of early trauma and sustained through years of unexamined, unconscious self-perceptions. By engaging in the neuroplastic reengineering of these neural pathways, we unlock a profound portal to healing. We begin to dismantle the ingrained cognitive patterns that have either encouraged the persistence of existing maladies or, in many cases, served as the genesis for new diseases.

The mind and body are not solitary islands; they are a unified ecosystem. When our internal dialogue is dominated by chronic stress, self-rejection, or fear, our neural circuitry crystallizes around these toxic frequencies. This biological lockdown sends distress signals throughout the physical form, eventually translating into systemic illness.

However, the miraculous elasticity of the human brain offers a pathway to redemption. By consciously changing our neuronal paths, we possess the power to alter the very course of disease, diverting its destructive momentum into new, life-affirming healing channels. We rewrite the somatic code from the inside out, signaling to our cells that the war has ended.

A crucial step in this alchemical process is recognizing how we inadvertently worship our afflictions. Too often, disease becomes a core pillar of our identity, a dark idol erected within the sanctuary of the mind. We feed it with our attention, our anxiety, and our daily anticipation of its permanence.

When disease is no longer idolized in the mind—when we withdraw the energetic currency of our constant fixation and identification—its grip on the physical form begins to loosen. We cease projecting the reality of illness into our future, allowing the rigid cellular memories to soften, dislodge, and dissolve into the ether.

In this spaciousness, liberated from the mind’s obsessive reinforcement of sickness, the disease in the body can simply float away. As the neural grooves of self-attack are smoothed over by the gentle currents of self-compassion and expansive awareness, natural healing ensues. The body, always striving for divine homeostasis, finally receives the neurological permission to repair itself.

The psychedelic experience acted as a profound supercharger for this mindfulness, illuminating the dark, neglected neural pathways of self-rejection so they could be consciously dismantled. Armed with this transcendent insight and a newly wired terrain of self-love, my physical reality transformed. The psoriasis cleared up completely within six weeks, quietly eliminating the need for expensive biologic treatments totaling nearly $60,000 a year and proving the miraculous healing power of a mind reborn.

I realized this self-rejection extended to my writings as well. I had been heavily judging my own work, trying to give my writings a “Botox treatment” to make them more presentable to the public. My body and my writings are temporary containers for infinite spiritual potential. This realization freed me from the need to enlist ultra-expensive editors, and gimmicky approaches to writing and living, allowing me to present my authentic, unvarnished truth.

To find the divine, we must first find ourselves. I am reminded of Marsha Feldman, a pulchritudinous friend from the 1980s. Marsha had the most perfect body and face I had ever seen, yet she was deeply unhappy, suffering from an autoimmune disease. She visited her Rabbi, demanding to know how she could find God and be healed.

Her Rabbi told her that he had wasted much of his life searching for God through scripture. It was not until he began an intense exploration of himself that he arrived at the doorstep of Truth. He advised Marsha to explore the darkest corners of her life: her judgments, her body, her enemies, her loves, and her connection with Nature. She had to first see what “God” isn’t to find the path to what “God” is.

Marsha’s Rabbi recommended she try a twelve-step support group to begin this exploration. That is how I met her, at a conference where Jack Boland, a master of twelve-step work, spoke. Marsha and I became the best of friends, but she just could not consider becoming my lover because I lacked the athletic build and handsome appearance of the millionaire playboys she was accustomed to hanging out with. Of course, her response to me got catalogued in my mind, informing me of my less than desirable appearance to a certain class of elite human beings.

In 1992, at a local talk I attended, Jack Boland later had the temerity to tell me personally that I needed more pain in my life, to act as a powerful motivator to dive deeper into my true self. At the time it felt harsh, but pain experienced consciously becomes an electrical surge meant to blow outdated neurological circuitry, enabling neural circuits to be rerouted by the brain’s innate neuroplastic capacity.

How do we bring healing to our mistakes of perception? Sometimes, the greatest healing techniques have already been developed. A great foundation for the practice of mindfulness is gained through practicing the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. My beginning on the spiritual path in 1987 began with the study and application of the 12 Steps of AA. The 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, spiritually reinterpreted, provided a framework that honored my spiritual journey rather than blindly following the dogma provided by religion:

12 Steps Revised to Reflect My Present Spiritual Experience

1. Admitting Unmanageability: After going through long periods of suffering, we eventually found the will to end it. We recognized that when we get caught in self-destructive habits—whether tied to a substance, situation, perception, judgment, or an inability to forgive in our relationships—we lose our freedom to choose, create needless trauma for ourselves and others, and miss out on any lasting sense of peace and joy. We came to see that we had been living unconsciously, and that neglect had left our lives unmanageable.

2. Awakening to Possibility: With our newfound hope and openness to change came the desire to awaken to greater possibilities for our lives. We realized that, at our core, we possess an inner, though often overlooked, power that can heal us and restore our balance if we truly seek it. We now see that we haven’t been living up to our full potential as human beings.

3. Turning Over Will: We’ve chosen to turn our will and our lives over to the care of our higher inner power. We’re opening ourselves to the possibility of embracing a new truth in our lives. We want to tap into the power to keep growing and to nurture our hearts so we can be more loving toward ourselves and others. We’re letting go of anything that stands in the way of our journey toward happiness, healing, and wholeness. We understand that without a genuine desire and clear intention to change our behavior, real transformation won’t happen.

4. Fearless Inventory: We took an honest and fearless look at ourselves. Living with low self-esteem led us to make poor choices, driven by a mindset of scarcity. We’ve come to see that by identifying the blocks to our growth and choosing to let them go, we can follow our new awareness toward the truth of who we are. This marks the beginning of our journey into mindfulness and higher consciousness.

5. Radical Honesty: We acknowledged that we hadn’t been honest with ourselves or others, and by opening up to someone we trust—without feeling obligated to them—about our mistakes in judgment and our actions toward ourselves and others, we can better handle the shame and self-criticism that often come from the heavy secrets we once thought we had to keep. Simply speaking honestly with another person can lighten our load. Our secrets no longer have to trap us or harm our mental health. When people come together in truth and honesty, compassion and empathy naturally join the space.

6. Willingness to Release: We became entirely willing to let go of our attachments to unhealthy attitudes, behavior, and people. We wish to see clearly, without the limitations of our past, of our family history, and of our cultural conditioning, with all of their embedded trauma.

7. Humility and Transformation: Through humility and a willingness to change, we open our hearts to new possibilities in life. This fresh connection with our higher inner power fills us with gratitude for the gifts we have and inspires us to prepare spiritually to give back to the world in a meaningful, positive way. We’re ready to release the emotionally charged memories that keep us stuck in the past. Rejoice—old demons are transforming into new angels!

8. Recognizing Harm: When we were unaware of our greater potential as human beings, we may have caused emotional, spiritual, and even physical harm to others. Now, we want to bring healing and peace to those who have suffered because of our ignorance. We’ve come to understand that every relationship, healthy or not, reflects how we truly see ourselves. We want to view life through the eyes of Truth, rather than through the pain and suffering that unfulfilled relationships have left behind.

9. Making Amends: We’ve made direct amends whenever possible to those we may have harmed, except when doing so could cause further hurt to them or others. We won’t ease our guilt at someone else’s expense. We’re committed to living by our newfound wisdom and our renewed intention to avoid harming any living being. We want both our world and our sense of self to feel safe from any future harm from us, and our honest acknowledgment of mistakes to those affected by our poor judgment will help keep that goal alive.

10. Continuous Mindfulness: We keep taking personal inventory and, when we’re wrong, we own up to it quickly. We’ve learned to be honest with ourselves, practicing mindfulness and growing our ability to understand who we are. We know ourselves better now, along with many of the things that can get in the way of living and expressing our true selves. We’ve moved past old ways of thinking and are more focused on appreciating the beauty of the present moment.

11. Meditation and Connection: Through prayer and meditation, we’ve worked to strengthen our connection with the Truth of our being, seeking only to know it and to embrace the willingness to live fully within its boundless realm. We’ve come to see recovery as a meditation on life itself, with our evolving, healing journey becoming a living prayer. Each time we draw from the deep inner waters revealed through meditation, more of our painful illusions fade away. We now understand that the ability to change, grow, and expand within our infinite spirit is the very essence of human life, and we now find ourselves traveling upon new paths of consciousness.

12. Sharing the Awakening: After experiencing a spiritual awakening through these steps, we’ve worked to share our message of recovery with the world while living by these principles in all we do. We’ve become whole—aware, compassionate people who take full responsibility for our lives, healing the past and keeping the present balanced and harmonious, without blaming others for who we are today. We’re enjoying prosperity in many ways and have seen ourselves heal. We’ve saved the world—from ourselves. Life has become our greatest teacher. We know we can’t bring salvation to others, but we feel it’s our duty to show the path of healing to those still suffering and open to overcoming their limitations.

Mindfulness is transformative. When you begin transforming yourself, the impact ripples outward. Self-awareness fosters empathy, and healed individuals naturally inspire healing in others. The unexamined life, fraught with toxic masculinity and humanity’s unconscious response to it, historical dogmas, and religious ignorance, threatens to destroy everything. It is our personal responsibility to direct our internal construction project—bringing order out of the chaos of our minds, much like the mythological process of creation in Genesis, where the Spirit hovers over the void to bring forth Light.

Socrates once said,

“the unexamined life is not worth living.”

True self-examination calls for an open heart and a willingness to face what we’ve buried. Sometimes, that journey can be supported by plant medicine. In the 1950s, Bill Wilson, co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, tried psychedelic therapy to treat depression that the 12 Steps alone couldn’t heal. He became intrigued by the potential of psychedelics to help those seeking deep spiritual experiences or relief from mental distress. Used responsibly, with the right mindset and environment, they can be powerful tools to move past the ego and glimpse the infinite. Still, they’re just keys; it’s the hand that turns them, and the daily mindfulness that follows, that truly opens the door to lasting peace.

How to Embark on Our Cosmic Journey: 5 Steps to Awakening

1. Confront the Stories You’ve Lived By: Write down your core beliefs and question their origins. Are they yours, or were they handed down to you?

2. Observe the Mind Without Judgment: Sit quietly for five minutes daily. Watch your thoughts drift like clouds without suppressing or analyzing them.

3. Pursue Self-Honesty: Take accountability for how you contribute to your own suffering. Where are you avoiding the truth?

4. Rekindle Connection with Intuition: Keep a journal, practice meditation, and act on small intuitive nudges. Trust the quiet voice within.

5. Commit to Lifelong Awakening: Healing is not a one-time event. Commit to daily reflections and surround yourself with conscious individuals.

To live an examined life is to reject the passive acceptance of suffering. Seek stillness. Question inherited beliefs. Trust in our innate capacity to transform. Be open to the use of plant medicine in controlled settings if the spirit is guiding in that direction.

The truth lies just beyond the noise, waiting for our attention.

Let us turn on our windshield wipers, clear the static from our cosmic receiver, and boldly tune into the infinite symphony of our existence.

Chapter Six: The Liberated Self — Insight, White Holes, and the Boundless Bandwidth of Existence

Insight as a Faculty Forged in Fire

Its a funny thing about hindsight, it always shows up late–Hagel

Insight is a faculty I developed slowly, across the long arc of a lifetime. My first insights came early—too early, perhaps—and they were not the kind that lead to a happy, well-balanced life. They had their origins in trauma. To look deeply at life while burdened with wounding from family, culture, or the private theater of one’s own psyche is to witness, with a terrible clarity, how a life can be taken in directions that serve neither one’s own greater good nor the good of others.

There is a sentence attributed to Jiddu Krishnamurti that I have carried with me for decades, and that I have already invoked in the pages of this book because it refuses to release its grip on me: It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society. I would extend the observation inward and downward, into the most intimate chambers of the family. It is no sign of good mental health to be well adjusted to a sick family system, or to a distorted cultural and religious inheritance. These systems generate trauma not as an aberration but as a natural outcome of their own imbalances. They produce wounding the way a fever produces heat—reliably, predictably, as a symptom of a deeper disorder.

The greatest trauma any human being can experience is to be forced—by family, by culture, by religion, by the accumulated weight of unexamined tradition—to build, seek, or assume an identity that is fundamentally incongruous with our own noble and loving nature. And here I must say plainly what these chapters have been building toward: everyone has been impacted by this. No exceptions. There is no one reading these words who has not, in some measure, been asked to become someone other than who they truly are.

What differs among us is not whether we carry this wound, but how we manifest and manage the imbalance it creates. Each of us adapts in our own unique, creative ways. Some are not defined primarily by their wounding; they have found, through grace or labor or both, a way to hold it without being consumed. Others are entirely consumed by it—every gesture, every choice, every relationship organized around the gravitational pull of a pain they have never named.

The personalities that emerge from sustained traumatic influence display recognizable signatures. The one drawn compulsively toward fight or flight. The one who fawns and follows others obsequiously, at the expense of their own empowerment and autonomy—as the backwards-thinking zealot insists a wife must defer to her husband, mistaking subjugation for virtue. The one who, like a deer frozen in headlights, cannot adapt to changing conditions because adaptation itself once meant danger. These are not character flaws. They are, as I have argued throughout these chapters, the classic behavioral and personality formations of trauma, written into the nervous system before the conscious mind had any say in the matter.

I ask you now, as you read my stories of traumatization and of my eventual liberation from the unconscious, maladaptive responses that trauma creates, to look for yourself in them. Why do certain patterns of dysfunction repeat in your relationship with yourself, with your family, with your culture? This is not a spectator sport, this business of dealing with trauma. We are all players, whether or not we consciously embrace the fact. To watch from the stands is itself a strategy of avoidance—one more sophisticated way of looking away.

The Spiritual Bypass: Why Sixty Years Were Not Enough

My greatest healing did not begin until I was sixty years old.

I want to dwell on that figure, because it carries a teaching that the wellness culture of our age would prefer we not absorb. I had spent, by my own conservative estimate, more than ten thousand hours searching for the truth of my own existence. I had meditated. I had immersed myself in spiritual community. I had read the great thinkers and absorbed their luminous insights. And still, the foundational wounds remained buried, unexamined, faithfully reproducing their effects in my anxiety, my social insecurities, my fluctuating self-esteem, and the persistent, aching sense that I was somehow unheard in my own life.

What I had been practicing, without recognizing it, was spiritual bypass. I believed that my connection with Spirit—cultivated through meditative and communal practice—was sufficient to keep me balanced, happy, and whole. It was not. I kept crashing into dysfunction with a regularity that should have alerted me sooner. I knew, intellectually, of the cultural and personal imbalances that had shaped me. I had been handed many hints across the years. But I did not follow their threads to their source. I did not descend into the labyrinth to engage directly with the unconscious minotaurs—the tricksters, the black holes—who wandered, largely unobstructed, through the corridors of my mind.

This is the danger I warned against in the chapter on the path from black holes to white holes: the substitution of pleasant-sounding spiritual froth, produced by great thinkers, for the real and irreplaceable inner work. We layer the borrowed wisdom of others over an unexamined inner universe and call the result enlightenment. But the teachers cannot assume their rightful place in our consciousness—as fellow travelers on a path toward a Truth that has no final destination—until we have first done the excavation ourselves.

At sixty, I finally made the commitment I had deferred for decades. I returned to my upbringing. I gathered the family stories and arranged them into a timeline—that long piece of paper I have recommended to you as a technology of integration. And I wrote nearly seventy pages about my own life: the childhood, the maturation, the addictive and self-destructive cycles, the glimpses of higher possibility. I could not have done this earlier. The architecture of my avoidance was too well-constructed, the bypass too convincing, the performance of fine-ness too complete.

But when I finally faced myself—completely, and without reservation—I was granted powers of insight I had never before possessed. And I brought liberation to vast stores of trapped energy that had been locked within me for the better part of sixty-one years.

The Transmutation of Darkness into Light

Here is the teaching at the very center of this book, the one toward which every preceding chapter has been quietly converging: to repress or deny our internal forces is to continue feeding them. The black holes, the tricksters, the buried rage and grief and terror—these are not enemies to be defeated. They are great forces to be harnessed.

When we finally get in touch with our fears, our angers, our hatreds—whatever name we give to the darkness manifesting within us—and when we refuse the twin temptations of repression and denial, something extraordinary becomes possible. These energies, once harnessed, keep us connected to the real world rather than exiling us from it. And as we transmute their energy, the light within us begins to use what was once dark for the good of ourselves and all of humanity.

The black holes may remain, even after the most profound spiritual and emotional transformations. I will not pretend otherwise; I have not found, in my own long labor, a final and permanent erasure of the wound. What I have found is that the dark influence of these structures recedes—steadily, reliably—once there is a committed intention to remain connected with insight and with spiritual healing, which is the source from which all true light comes.

And for more than a few of us, these black holes are eventually transformed into something else entirely. Into white holes. Into regions of consciousness where no darkness can escape and where all of experience becomes enlightened. This is not the spiritual bypass I warned against. The white hole is not a shortcut around the wound. It is what becomes of the wound after we have descended into it, named it, felt it fully, and brought it into the light of sustained and loving attention.

The Great Light at Mt. Adams

I have already recounted, earlier in this book, my encounter with a mystical white hole in August of 1993, as I prepared to hike toward Lookinglass Lake at Mt. Adams. I returned to that memory then to illustrate the possibility of radical perceptual transformation. I return to it now, in this chapter, because I have come to understand it as a kind of promise—a preview, granted long before I was ready to claim it, of what lay on the far side of the work I had not yet begun.

I awoke that morning with my senses inexplicably heightened. I could see and hear with an acuity well beyond my ordinary capacity. Food carried more flavor; the air, more scent. My entire body felt alive with sensation that exceeded the boundaries of the familiar. By evening, as we set up our tent in the snow park, the experience had deepened into something I can only call communion. It was as though I had grown sensory receptors in the dirt, the sky, the trees. I had grown roots. I could not merely see the ground and the beautiful trees and the sky—I could feel them. It was the direct, embodied experience of a truth I have stated repeatedly in these pages: all that I can see is myself.

Later that night, I woke to a disturbance outside the tent. In the sky there appeared a Great Light, bathing the entire surrounding area in a radiance that eliminated every shadow, though it was near midnight.

I did not understand, in 1993, what that light was showing me. I was decades away from the morning in my office when I would first perceive the black mass in my brain. I was a quarter-century from that Thursday in February of 2018, when Sharon’s words coincided with the rupture of a trauma seed packet buried for sixty-one years, and I raged and wept and finally heard the wounded essence within me cry out for the first time. I was, in 1993, a man who had been granted a vision of the destination before I had taken all the conscious steps along the road to get me there.

This, too, is a teaching. The light comes to us before we are ready. It waits. And when at last we do the work—the timeline, the writing, the witnessing, the descent—we discover that the light was never withholding itself. We were simply not yet able to live inside it.

The Two Wolves, Reconsidered

You will recall the Cherokee elder and his grandson, and the two wolves who war within the human heart—the one made of anger, envy, regret, and ego, the other made of joy, peace, love, and faith. Which wolf will win? the boy asked. The one you feed, the grandfather replied.

I offered that story earlier as a lesson in the power of conscious attention. I want now to complicate it with everything these chapters have taught us, because the parable, taken too simply, can become its own form of spiritual bypass.

We cannot starve the dark wolf into nonexistence. This is the error of denial dressed in spiritual clothing—the belief that if we simply refuse to feed our anger, our grief, our terror, these forces will wither and vanish. They will not. The starved wolf does not die. It goes underground. It becomes a black hole. It wanders the labyrinth, unobstructed, doing its dark work in the basement of the unconscious while we congratulate ourselves on the serenity of our surface.

The deeper teaching, the one consistent with the transmutation of black holes into white holes, is this: we must first turn toward the dark wolf. We must look it in the eyes, learn its history, understand the wounds that made it what it is. We must feed it, in a sense—not with more rage and resentment, but with attention, with witness, with compassion. Only then can its enormous energy be harnessed and transmuted, redirected from self-destruction toward the good of ourselves and all beings. The wolf we are feeding, in the end, is not the dark one or the light one. It is the integrated self—the consciousness that has descended into its own darkness and returned, carrying the light.

The Boundless Bandwidth

I began this final chapter with insight, and I will end it there—but with insight understood now not as a private possession but as a doorway.

All that we have seen, see, and will ever see, unto eternity, is ourselves. I have repeated this conviction throughout these chapters because it is, I believe, the cornerstone of both trauma and liberation. If the self that perceives is limited by traumatic wounding—tethered to an awkward and unexamined past—then what it sees will never bring fulfillment, joy, or healing. The black hole distorts not only our interior but the entire visible world, drawing all light toward its singularity. We move through a universe of our own woundedness, mistaking it for reality itself.

But if we have done the work—if we have let go of the controls imposed by the past, and embarked upon the difficult, sacred, irreplaceable path of healing consciousness—then we begin to see more clearly. And in the ultimate, we begin to see as the divine itself sees.

This is what I mean when I speak, as I have at the close of this six chapter series on trauma, of living a life upon the universe’s boundless bandwidth. The traumatized self operates on a narrow band—a frequency constricted by fear, by hypervigilance, by the relentless gravitational distortion of unprocessed pain. The liberated self operates on the full spectrum. It feels the entire range, the terror and the wonder, the grief and the joy, refusing the anesthesia that numbs them all together. It perceives the interconnectedness of all life. It receives the Great Light, not as a passing vision granted to an unready man on a mountain, but as the ambient condition of an existence finally inhabited without reservation.

I do not stand before you as someone who has solved the problem of human suffering. I stand as someone who has lived it deeply, studied it obsessively, and arrived—at sixty years of age, after ten thousand hours of searching and one shattering Thursday morning—at a place of sufficient clarity to offer what I have learned, at considerable cost, to those who are still in the middle of the river.

The black holes within me have not entirely vanished. But their darkness recedes. And on the days when the work is rich rather than thin, I catch glimpses of the white hole into which they are being slowly transformed—that region of consciousness where no darkness escapes and all experience becomes enlightened.

This is the testimony of a single liberated self. It is also, I believe, the latent inheritance of every human being who has ever drawn breath. The faculty of insight, forged in the fire of my own trauma and developed across a lifetime of slow and painful labor, has shown me this much: we are not finally our wounds. We are the consciousness that can witness them, feel them, and transmute their dark energy into light.

Please—do not despair, and do not give up until the miracle appears in your own life.

Then share with the world this healing vision.

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Chapter 9-18: Projection and Perception: The Word, the Dream, and the Evolving Self

Oh, evil’s shadow boxer, when will you ever retire?                                                     Tis champion of a lonely dream world to which you aspire.
Stop resuscitating dead illusions with mental pugilist blows,
And a peaceful mind will replace the confusion you now know.

What do you see when you glance into the mirror?

A body?

A mind?

A projection of your woundedness, or a reflection shaped by the judgments you carry?

Or do you glimpse something far deeper—the essence of the cosmos and who you truly are?

This question, on the surface, may seem simple, but its depths reach into psychology, neuroscience, and our shared spiritual experience. When we gaze upon the world around us, what exactly are we witnessing? The ancient wisdom that declares “All that we now see, and will ever see, unto eternity, is ourself” might initially strike us as profoundly narcissistic or impossibly solipsistic. Yet this statement contains layers of truth that span from the most wounded aspects of human perception to the highest realms of cosmic consciousness.

Projection, a concept often discussed as a psychological defense mechanism, extends far beyond our interpersonal conflicts. It manifests in families, communities, religions, and even nations. Our perceptual apparatus doesn’t simply record external reality—it actively constructs it through the lens of accumulated experience, knowledge, and emotional conditioning. To truly understand projection, then, we must first examine how our sense of reality and self is constructed.

The Construction of the Self

As Tom Waits has said, we are buried under the weight of information, which is often confused with knowledge, with quantity being confused with abundance and wealth with happiness. We are monkeys with money and guns.

Apart from Tom’s perspective, what is knowledge, and how do we know what we know? Philosophers, scientists, religious thinkers, and beer drinkers throughout the ages have contemplated this most important question, for it has ramifications for our sense of self, its reality and formation, and our actual place in the Universe.

René Descartes was well known, not only for his volumes of scientific and mathematical writings and teachings but also for his famous one-liner:

I think, therefore I am.

Starting with Descartes, the self was considered to be a thinking thing that is not extended, and the object of the self’s observation is an extended thing that does not think. Duality is affirmed here, as the thinker, who is a dynamic being, traps the observed in a thought, which is a static enclosure, or perception. Those five words can certainly get confusing, especially when the object is another thinking human being, whether they are thoughtless or not! Things can get really, really interesting—and complicated—when the object of observation is the actual self doing the observation.

Many modern thinkers consider René’s dualism through his cause-and-effect statement as not fully embracing the nature of consciousness and our being, the wholeness of our reality, and our relationship to its formation and experience. Descartes may have put “des-cartes before de-horse.”

Within a conscious mind, the subject and the object arise simultaneously. The thinker and the thought arise as one. In Christian mystical terminology, the word becomes flesh, and dwells among us. We think our world into existence, then step back from full ownership of our creations. Duality is thus merely an illusion of thought.

Consider how knowledge of the self first begins with the insight that the word represents an object of sensorial awareness. Helen Keller first recognized herself as an independent being upon realizing that W-A-T-E-R represented the substance that she both drank and washed with. So too it is that we can properly assume that our sense of self—and each subsequent iteration of it, or evolutionary progression of it—arises from each statement of “new knowing” that arises within our consciousness. Thus, it remains imperative that we understand this process of the creation of “knowledge” and the accumulation of “knowledge” through our training, education, and life experience, for this is the process by which we create ourselves and build upon it.

Here we arrive at something fundamental: duality is the very engine of naming, and naming is the very engine of identity. To name a thing is to carve it out from the seamless whole, to draw a boundary where, in truth, none exists. The moment we say “tree,” we summon into being its silent opposite—”not-tree”—and the undivided fabric of reality splits in two. Every word is a small act of division, a knife that separates figure from ground, subject from object, “me” from “not-me.” This is no flaw in language; it is language’s very nature. The word cannot exist without its shadow, the negation that gives it shape. And so each time we speak, we participate in the original creative act of separation, calling forth a world of pairs from the silence of unity.

This carries a profound implication for how we understand ourselves. The sense of “I” is not a thing we discover but a word we speak, again and again, until it hardens into the feeling of a self. We are, quite literally, named into existence—first by others who call us by name, then by the internal voice that ceaselessly narrates who we are: “I am anxious,” “I am unworthy,” “I am strong,” “I am broken.” Each such pronouncement is a brick in the edifice of identity, a self-fulfilling incantation. This is precisely why we must choose our words with great care when we define ourselves, for the labels we accept become the walls of the house we inhabit. To call yourself “a failure” is not merely to describe a state—it is to author one. The word creates the identity, and the identity then creates the world we perceive. If we would change the self we see reflected in all things, we must first attend to the words with which we conjure it.

When we seek to return to a primordial state of unity—our own inner Garden of Eden—what state of consciousness are we truly striving to reclaim? If we simply aim to regress to a pre-verbal state, we will inevitably find ourselves disappointed. Such early stages of awareness are often clouded by unresolved trauma, leaving the mind’s complex maze and its hidden demons unaddressed. Much of our accumulated knowledge actually distracts us from this deep, inner work. Therefore, we must bravely navigate the labyrinth of the mind, examining the illusions that conceal our spiritual blockages, so we may finally awaken to our original, unified nature.

To consciously rebuild our awareness, we need a fresh foundation—one rooted in understanding the interconnected and participatory nature of consciousness. With that self-awareness, our perception of the world becomes less vulnerable to illusions. What we learn and the perceptions we develop can then broaden our sense of self and support our ongoing evolutionary journey.

All That You See Is Yourself

“All that you see is yourself.”

These words reflect an ancient truth, one that challenges our surface understanding of perception and the judgments we carry. Every reaction to another person, every assessment of what is “good” or “evil,” holds up a mirror reflecting our unexamined selves. What we fear most, the “enemy” we see in others, often turns out to be the unrecognized shadow of our own being.

Perception originates within each of us in a unique creative form. Yet what you see “out there” is deeply intertwined with the narratives and associations you’ve built “in here.” Our inner world serves as a lens, shaping how we perceive reality. We have been assembling an internal model of reality since we were quite young, according to Piaget, and this is our unique creation—the glasses we must look through. Without self-awareness, this lens becomes clouded, chaining us to patterns of fear, projection, and misunderstanding.

Piaget’s theory of cognitive development provides insight into how early in life this process begins. He argued that children construct their internal models of the world stage by stage, using sensory experiences and interactions to assemble frameworks for understanding their environment. These models are not passive recordings of the external world, but active and creative interpretations that evolve into the schemas we carry as adults. It is through these schemas that we approach new experiences, often interpreting them through assumptions rooted in our earliest perceptions.

Furthermore, Piaget highlighted that as we grow, equilibrium between assimilation (integrating new information into existing schemas) and accommodation (altering schemas to incorporate new information) becomes essential. Without this balance, our internal lens can remain fixed, distorting our perspective of the world. For instance, a child who grows up associating discipline with rejection might carry this unresolved narrative into adulthood, projecting fears of abandonment onto authority figures or relationships. To recalibrate this lens, a process of both cognitive and emotional self-reflection is necessary.

The Solipsistic View: Seeing Through Trauma

The most immediate interpretation of seeing only ourselves manifests in those deeply wounded by life’s circumstances. Individuals carrying unresolved trauma or harboring unforgiveness toward those who have hurt them develop what we might call “judgmental eyeglasses”—perceptual filters that remain remarkably consistent regardless of changing external conditions.

This traumatized perspective creates a prison of repetitive perception. The person who has been betrayed sees betrayal everywhere. The individual wounded by abandonment discovers abandonment in every relationship. The mind, seeking to protect itself from further harm, constructs a reality that validates its defensive posture.

This creates a paradox: while we believe we’re observing objective reality, we’re actually witnessing our own psychological landscape projected outward. The angry person encounters an angry world. The fearful individual discovers threats in benign circumstances.

Yet this limitation of traumatic perception also points toward possibility. If our wounds can so dramatically color our experience, what might happen when those wounds heal? What reality might emerge when we transform our internal landscape? The loving heart recognizes love’s presence even in challenging situations, so creating the self that can see with love’s vision might be the wisest move we can make as a human being.

But how can we confront something as elusive as perception? To uncover the layers of projection and move closer to clarity, we must dare to venture inward. There are many tools available to assist us in this search for truth, including dream study, cognitive behavioral therapy, journaling, mindfulness, and meditation techniques.

The Dream: Facing the Evil One

The story of a dream I had during my childhood continues to serve as a beacon of insight for me to this day, illustrating how facing our fears—and ourselves—is at the heart of transformation. The dream began in a high mountain village by a serene lake, reminiscent of landscapes as timeless as Lake Titicaca in the Andes. Here, the village priest received a divine command, one that was as bold as it was unsettling. He informed the villagers that they were to cast away every golden figurine, every sacred symbol, into the depths of the lake. These objects, meant to protect them, were to be abandoned. Then, the priest instructed each person to face the “evil one” dwelling in their homes without these symbols of comfort or protection.

The priest did not exempt himself from this unsettling task. He returned to his home, stripped himself of his garments, and prepared to summon the dark forces. A dense fog surrounded him as sparks cascaded from his fingertips, channeled toward the enemy hidden in the mist. His pulse quickened, sweat dripped, and dread began to overtake him. He pushed on, straining to confront the menacing presence.

Finally, a face began to materialize through the fog. And in his final moment of clarity before collapse, the priest realized a profound truth that shattered his understanding of fear and evil. The face of the “evil one” might be his own.

The symbolism of the dream is both personal and universal. By discarding their idols, the villagers relinquished their dependence on external symbols of security, setting the stage for true self-discovery. The priest, taking this step further, found the possibility of his own reflection in the adversary he thought he was battling.

This act of confronting fear without the crutch of external protections highlights a deep truth about human nature. True peace and resilience arise not from suppressing fear, but from engaging with it directly. The priest’s struggle illustrates the paradox that in seeking to destroy what we fear, we often come face to face with fragments of ourselves.

Through this lens, the dream becomes more than a personal narrative. It is a window into the human condition, speaking to our shared tendency to project unacknowledged fears, desires, and judgments onto others.

Projection, Trauma, and the Roots of Distortion

Psychological projection, a concept popularized by Carl Jung, is the act of attributing one’s own unconscious feelings, traits, or impulses to others. It functions as a defense mechanism, shielding us from the discomfort of confronting our inner conflicts. Neuroscience confirms how subjective perception shapes our reality. Sensory input, filtered through memory, emotion, and bias, creates a unique internal reality for each individual.

However, our perceptual lens is not constructed in isolation. Trauma, both personal and intergenerational, profoundly alters the way we see the world. Those who have endured trauma often experience heightened states of vigilance, as their nervous systems have been shaped by the echoes of past threats. The scars of trauma embed themselves in our perceptions, influencing how we assess danger, trust others, and interpret ambiguous situations. At times, projection becomes an unconscious tool for survival, a way to externalize internal chaos in an attempt to find order. Unresolved trauma acts as a conductor, amplifying projection until it reverberates not just in individuals, but across families and even generational lines.

Consider a parent, scarred by their upbringing, projecting their fears onto their child. Or a community, burdened by historical trauma, creating scapegoats from outsiders. Intergenerational trauma compounds this mechanism, adding layers of inherited pain to the distortions of perception. Addressing projection in the context of trauma requires not only self-awareness but also the courage to heal the wounds carried within. Forgiveness becomes a bridge—not just to others, but to parts of ourselves fractured by pain.

Forgiveness as the Interruption of Projection

Projection often thrives in the absence of forgiveness. Unresolved pain and resentment distort our perceptions, leading us to externalize blame onto others. When we fail to forgive, we perpetuate cycles of projection that deepen divisions and prevent healing.

Take, for instance, a grudge held against someone who has wronged you. Instead of addressing the underlying hurt, you construct narratives that amplify their flaws. This act of storytelling becomes a way to avoid self-examination, trapping you in a loop of blame and denial.

Forgiveness interrupts this cycle. By choosing to forgive, we confront and release the pain within ourselves, freeing both ourselves and others from the burden of blame. Forgiveness is not about excusing harmful behavior but about dismantling the walls between projection, judgment, and inner truth.

Cleansing the Doors of Perception

William Blake urged, “If the doors of perception were cleansed, everything would appear to man as it is—infinite.” What does it mean to cleanse these doors? It means moving beyond the limitations of conditioned thinking and seeing life in its fullness. It is a shift from judgment to understanding, from projection to self-awareness.

To begin this process, consider these practices:

Mindful Observation: Observe your thoughts and emotions without attaching to them. Learn to differentiate between reality and your inner stories. Remember the truth that all of the perceptions gathered from observing the world are projections from an inner state of (mis)understanding.

Challenge Biases: Reflect on a strong belief or judgment you hold. Is it rooted in truth, or does it stem from unexamined fears? Once again, remember that all of the perceptions gathered from observing the world are projections from an inner state of (mis)understanding.

Meditation: Stillness allows you to transcend the filters of past experiences and encounter pure awareness. Those who are persistent in their meditative practice will eventually stumble upon the radical awareness not born of verbal construct or choice, but of infinity witnessing itself without egoic interference.

Radical Openness: Engage respectfully with perspectives you once dismissed. This act of listening can reveal more about yourself than about others.

The external world is not a neutral space but a mirror reflecting the depths of our inner selves, both individual and collective. Reality, as we perceive it, is never objective—it is filtered through the lens of our conditioning. Yet within this truth lies a profound opportunity. By examining the judgments and fears we project outward, we can uncover the hidden aspects of our psyche. The shadow we fear most is often our own.

From Sympathy to Empathy: The First Cracks in the Prison

The introduction of sympathy marks the first crack in the prison of solipsistic perception. When we feel genuine sorrow for another’s loss, we temporarily transcend the boundaries of our isolated experience. This shared emotional resonance hints at deeper connections between consciousness and cosmos.

Empathy represents a more profound evolution. True empathy involves seeing through another’s eyes, feeling through their heart, experiencing reality from their unique vantage point. This capacity fundamentally alters our understanding of the statement “all that we see is ourselves.”

Through empathetic connection, we begin recognizing others as expressions of our expanded self. The boundaries between “self” and “other” start dissolving, revealing a more inclusive understanding of identity. When we successfully apply empathy, we don’t simply understand another person—we recognize them as aspects of our larger being.

This transformation reflects the deeper spiritual truth embedded in teachings across wisdom traditions. When Jesus declared that “when two or more are gathered in my name, I am there,” he pointed toward the universal quality of shared spiritual energy. In moments of authentic gathering, individual consciousness merges into something greater—an elevated sense of collective selfhood that transcends ordinary personality boundaries.

Spiritual Energy and the Collective Self

The evolution from isolated self-concern toward collective awareness represents a crucial stage in consciousness development. As we learn to hold space for others’ experiences without losing ourselves in their drama, we discover new dimensions of our own identity.

This expansion happens naturally as we develop spiritual maturity. We begin recognizing that our individual consciousness participates in larger patterns of awareness. The thoughts we think, the emotions we feel, and the insights we receive emerge from sources that transcend our personal boundaries.

Meditation practices often reveal this expanded sense of self. In moments of deep stillness, the boundaries between inner and outer experience dissolve. We recognize that consciousness itself—not the particular contents of our individual minds—represents our deepest identity. From this perspective, seeing “ourselves” in everything takes on profound new meaning.

The collective self includes all of humanity’s accumulated wisdom, trauma, and potential for healing. When we access this level of awareness, we understand ourselves as expressions of the human species’ ongoing evolution. Our individual struggles reflect universal themes. Our personal healing contributes to humanity’s collective transformation.

Compassion as a Tool for Transformation

Compassion emerges as perhaps the most powerful tool for expanding our perceptual universe. Unlike empathy, which involves feeling what another feels, compassion maintains loving witness to suffering without becoming overwhelmed by it. This quality enables profound service to others while preserving our own emotional equilibrium.

The compassionate perspective recognizes suffering as a universal human experience while understanding that identification with suffering amplifies it unnecessarily. Through compassionate witness, we can offer alternative perspectives to those caught in cycles of pain, helping them recognize other ways of interpreting and responding to life’s challenges.

Suffering tends to dramatically narrow vision, focusing attention exclusively on immediate problems. The reduction or elimination of suffering naturally expands awareness, making the healed person more available for others and the world. This creates a positive feedback loop: as we heal our own suffering, we become more capable of assisting others’ healing, which further expands our sense of identity and purpose.

Compassion also reveals the deeper truth underlying all perception. When we witness another’s struggle with genuine love, we recognize their essential nature beyond their temporary condition. This recognition reflects back to us our own essential nature, unmarred by whatever difficulties we might currently face.

The Stages of Consciousness

Understanding the evolution of consciousness helps clarify how our perception of “self” transforms across different stages of awareness. These stages represent expanding bandwidths of conscious experience, each offering greater freedom and a more inclusive identity.

Stage 1: The Unconscious — Life Dictated by Reaction

The unconscious stage operates within an incredibly narrow bandwidth of awareness. Life is largely dictated by reaction rather than conscious choice. We’re driven by primal instincts, habitual patterns, and emotional conditioning inherited from family and culture.

At this stage, perception is heavily filtered through fear-based mechanisms. The “reptilian brain” dominates decision-making, fostering behaviors of isolation, tribalism, and scarcity consciousness. Relationships become power struggles, personal ambition overshadows collective well-being, and curiosity remains dormant under layers of insecurity.

From this level of consciousness, “seeing ourselves” in everything reflects our limitations and wounds projected outward. The angry unconscious person creates an angry world. The fearful individual discovers threats everywhere. The separated self constructs a reality that validates its isolation.

Breaking free from unconscious patterns requires the courage to question inherited assumptions and habits. We must ask whether our fears truly belong to us or simply represent recycled emotional patterns. These uncomfortable questions prove necessary for ascending to higher levels of awareness.

Stage 2: The Aware — Conscious Action

The aware stage marks the beginning of conscious engagement with life. Instead of merely reacting to circumstances, we start setting goals, pursuing personal improvement, and seeking connection beyond our immediate concerns. Hope and faith transform from passive concepts into active tools for intentional growth.

At this level, we begin recognizing that our sense of individual self might not represent the complete picture. The boundaries between “self” and “other” start blurring as we develop empathy and compassion. We realize that life offers more than mere survival—it provides opportunities for growth, service, and transcendence.

However, the aware stage isn’t free from challenges. Doubt, habitual patterns, and ego-driven concerns can still limit our progress. The critical element of this phase involves recognizing that our fiercely guarded sense of separate self represents only one level of identity.

From the aware stage, “seeing ourselves” begins including recognition of shared humanity. We start perceiving others as aspects of our expanded self, connected through common experiences and universal needs.

Stage 3: The Self-Aware — Boundless Exploration of Consciousness

Self-awareness represents the highest stage in this developmental model, characterized by transcendence of ego limitations and fear-based patterns. Spirituality and psychology converge as self-awareness becomes an intuitive, heart-centered knowing rather than intellectual understanding.

At this stage, relationships evolve into opportunities for mutual growth. Empathy replaces judgment, compassion dismantles tribalism, and personal suffering transforms into motivation for alleviating others’ struggles. We recognize ourselves as interconnected aspects of universal consciousness rather than isolated individuals.

From self-aware consciousness, every impulse emerges from love—love for self, others, and the totality of existence. Personal gain becomes secondary to the deeper purpose of protecting, enhancing, and honoring life everywhere. We understand that serving others ultimately serves our truest self.

True consciousness evolution requires holistic integration of mental, physical, and spiritual development. Intellectual insights must be grounded in embodied experience, while spiritual wisdom guides emotional responses and behavioral choices. This integration prevents the spiritual bypassing that occurs when we use philosophical concepts to avoid dealing with psychological patterns or physical needs.

The Cosmic Self: Unity with Universal Consciousness

The ultimate expansion of self-perception involves recognition of our cosmic nature. This exalted state of consciousness rarely occurs and typically doesn’t sustain itself for extended periods. Yet even brief glimpses of cosmic awareness can permanently transform our understanding of identity and reality.

Cosmic consciousness represents an all-inclusive state of being where we recognize ourselves as emanations of the universe itself. Rather than feeling separate from the cosmos, we understand ourselves as conscious agents of universal creativity and evolution. From this perspective, we clearly perceive our individual self and its limitations. We also recognize our collective self—our participation in humanity’s shared drama, trauma, and capacity for healing. But beyond both individual and collective identity, we access what might be called universal selfhood.

This cosmic awareness doesn’t negate or diminish other levels of selfhood. Instead, it provides a context that reveals their deeper significance. Our personal struggles contribute to universal evolution. Our individual healing serves cosmic purposes. Our specific talents and abilities express universal creativity through unique channels.

The recognition of infinite nature brings both tremendous freedom and profound responsibility. We can no longer blame external circumstances for our experience, recognizing that we participate in creating reality through our consciousness. Yet this same recognition empowers us to transform our experience by evolving our awareness.

Jiddu Krishnamurti once observed,

“You are not an individual; you are part of the vast mind of man. When you realize this fact, you enter into an extraordinary world. You are the entire humanity.”

True freedom, then, does not spring from controlling the external world but from mastering our internal landscape. When we strip away the idols, confront our shadows, and reclaim our projections, we discover that the universe has been attempting to awaken us through every encounter.

Understanding that “all we see is ourselves” carries profound practical implications for daily life. This recognition transforms how we relate to challenging people, difficult circumstances, and our own internal struggles.

When someone triggers our anger, we can ask what aspect of ourselves their behavior reflects. Are they mirroring our own capacity for selfishness? Are they expressing our disowned shadow qualities? Rather than simply reacting, we can use the trigger as information about our internal landscape.

Difficult circumstances become opportunities for growth rather than arbitrary suffering. If external conditions reflect internal states, then transforming our consciousness naturally improves our life circumstances. This doesn’t mean blaming ourselves for difficulties but rather taking responsibility for our response to whatever arises.

Even global challenges like environmental destruction, social injustice, and political conflict can be understood as reflections of collective human consciousness. Our individual healing and growth contribute to addressing these larger issues by transforming the consciousness that created them.

This perspective empowers us while maintaining humility. We recognize our profound creative power while acknowledging that we’re participating in something infinitely larger than our individual will.

The Path Forward: Expanding Our Perceptual Universe

The journey from limited self-perception toward cosmic awareness requires patience, courage, and sustained commitment. Each expansion of consciousness reveals new dimensions of our being while presenting fresh challenges and opportunities for growth.

We must be willing to release comfortable identities and familiar ways of perceiving reality. The ego naturally resists these transformations, preferring known limitations to unknown possibilities. Yet each breakthrough reveals that our fears of expansion were unfounded—we lose nothing essential while gaining immeasurable freedom.

Practices that support this evolution include meditation, contemplation, service to others, study of wisdom traditions, and courageous self-inquiry. Most importantly, we need community with others walking similar paths, as shared exploration accelerates individual and collective transformation.

The expansion of consciousness serves not only personal liberation but universal evolution. As we recognize ourselves in everything, we naturally become more compassionate, creative, and committed to the wellbeing of all life. Our individual journey contributes to humanity’s collective awakening.

The recognition that “all that we see is ourselves” ultimately points beyond any limited conception of selfhood toward the infinite mystery that manifests as all existence. This understanding doesn’t diminish the importance of individual growth or collective responsibility—it provides the cosmic context that reveals their deeper significance.

We are simultaneously unique individuals, interconnected human beings, and expressions of universal consciousness. These different levels of identity don’t contradict each other but rather represent different frequencies of the same essential nature.

As we embrace this truth, our perceptual universe naturally expands to include more of humanity, the natural world, and the cosmos itself. Empathy and compassion become not merely personal qualities but fundamental aspects of reality itself, as we recognize that serving others literally serves ourselves at the deepest level.

The question is not whether we see ourselves in everything—this remains inevitable given the nature of consciousness. The question is whether we see our wounded, limited self or our healed, cosmic self-reflected in our experience.

When we choose healing, growth, and expanded awareness, the self we see everywhere becomes increasingly loving, wise, and creative. This transformation of perception creates positive feedback loops that heal not only our individual lives but contribute to the healing of our collective human experience and the evolution of consciousness itself.

Take a moment to reflect upon your perceptual universe. Where does it limit you? How do your needs to be right crush natural curiosity? Can empathy and compassion expand your awareness to include more of humanity and the natural world? The answers to these questions hold the keys to your next stage of conscious evolution.

Chapter 9-19: Empathy and the Mystery of the Path Between You and Me — An Exploration of the Sacred Architecture of Human Connection, Cosmic Consciousness, and the Radical Technology of the Soul

Prelude: The Territory We Are Entering

The commentary on the common knowledge game, and the lemming effect, should have given the reader a substantial window through which to view humanity’s extraordinary potential for both corruption and healing within our social connections. Another facet of the most fundamental truths of our existence is the extraordinary depth of our capacity for connection to one another—and how powerfully that connection influences all of us, for good and for ill. If we learn to collectively embrace this universal fact, we will have a crucial clue as to how to reduce the incidences of disease and distress in our world without simply tattooing more medical technology upon our bodies, minds, and souls.

We are not separate beings navigating a neutral universe. We are nodes in a living, breathing network of consciousness—porous, permeable, and profoundly interdependent. Every thought we think, every emotion we carry unexamined, every wound we refuse to acknowledge, radiates outward into the field of shared human experience. And every act of genuine connection, every moment of true understanding between one soul and another, sends a healing frequency through that same field.

This chapter is a meditation. It is also a diagnosis, a cartography, and, ultimately, an invitation. It is an attempt to map the mysterious territory that exists between you and me—between any two souls who dare to meet one another honestly across the chasm of their individual histories and the accumulated wounds of civilization. It asks what empathy truly is, what it costs, what it heals, and what it demands of those courageous enough to practice it in its fullest and most dangerous forms.

It is also a chapter about the path that extends beyond the human—beyond the personal, beyond the social, and into something that the mystics have always pointed toward, but that language has always struggled to contain: the path between the individual and the cosmos itself. Between the finite and the infinite. Between the suffering self and the vast, unconditional intelligence that some call God, some call the Universe, and some have no name for at all.

Let us begin where we must always begin—in the middle of the mess.

“No mud, no lotus.”—Thich Nhat Hanh