My first love, and first wife, died on the day of my birthday, November 20, 2022.. I just confirmed it this evening after our return from the beach,
We knew each other since 1972. Married in 1979 after living together for four often times troubling years.. Divorced in 1985 after repeated so-called “nervous breakdowns”.
She lived a tragic, heartbreaking, life.
I lost touch with her after the death of her real father, Don Flick, in 1996. HE WAS A GOOD MAN, though he had his own unique issues..
Childhood trauma, especially sexual abuse, is the wound that weighs a soul down for the entirety of one’s life, if left untreated. Donelle was abused by her mother’s horrific negligence and the alcoholic Bud Barr’s evil behavior.
She was a beautiful soul deserving the best life had to offer.
I often struggled to give her adequate emotional support during her breakdowns,
Her genetic family often gave her the worst support, but they were quite spiritually limited.
I have only wanted to bring the greatest harm to two people in my entire life–Bud Barr, the sex abuser that Marlene eventually married after leaving Don, and her mother Marlene.
Bud got is just deserts served to him in heaping portions later in life after killing two motorcycle riders while he was driving intoxicated.
I grieve for Donelle, and for all traumatized souls.
Click on the picture if you have a strong, curious, willing heart, and are interested in my description of mental illness, Donelle, and some of our life together.
I have written eight books trying to tell our story, the story of all traumatized souls, and our potential for healing.
Is anybody listening to me?
Is anybody listening to the so-called healing experts?
Does anybody really care?
I think, hope, and pray that we do.
My life was forever changed by my relationship with Donelle, while she presented me with a unique life, love, and growth experience.
If suffering is our ticket to heaven, God, the Creator, Universe, Grandfather Great Spirit, or whatever name we give to that which brought us here must have a wonderful place saved for you, sweet Spirit, Donelle.
You earned it!
The place many of the abused, victimized, and traumatized victims of American family and society looks like hell to me, and can really suck.
The response of the indifferent and insensitive of our world can really suck, too,
Donelle’s senior yearbook photograph
2 Comments
gracefuladdict · November 27, 2022 at 6:00 PM
I care 🙏and I am sorry for the loss of your beloved💕
Bruce · November 27, 2022 at 6:22 PM
Your sweetness extends well beyond your words. Thank you for caring about life
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