Chapter Eight: Empathy, and The Mystery of the Path Between You And Me

Life’s journey is forever like a dotted line pathway.  It is the quality of our connections with each other that fills in the space between the dots.  Empathy is the major vehicle for our consciousness to transcend our apparent differences, enabling each of us to connect the dots in a mutually affirming manner.  It is only through each other that we can see who we really are. I am you, and you are me, and together we are everything, apart, we are still chained together by whatever separates us.  We find our shared meaning, which links us together on our journey in Spirit—-Elisha Scott

Humans are social creatures; we survive through our connections to others. But because of the Lemming Effect and Common Knowledge Game, the potential for both corruption and healing exists within our social connections. Another facet of the most fundamental truths of our existence is the extraordinary potential for the depth of our connections to each other, and how strongly that connection influences all of us, for good and for bad.  If we learn to collectively embrace this universal fact, we will have a clue as to how to reduce the incidences of disease and distress in our world without just tattooing more medical technology upon our bodies and souls.

Modern America faces several societal problems, including COVID-19, cultural divisiveness, addictions, obesity, cancer, and gun violence. These pandemics are creating more opportunities for eruptions of drama and anxiety, which interbreeds with any potentially unhealed pain and suffering already inherent within our lives. We must become more conscious of how the unconscious actions of others, and our unfulfilled healing response, tend to introduce more traumatic influences into our own lives.  Following a healing path means being spiritually present for others while recognizing and transforming both individually and collectively, all internalized trauma dramas.

Love, hate, and indifference are three terms that we use to help describe the quality of our relationships with each other. To some extent, in various proportions, all of us employ these three qualities of energy exchange in our lives, depending on the person and/or the situation involved. As human beings, we experience love and hatred as powerful emotions, which guide all subsequent feelings and perceptions in predefined directions. Love is an open system of friction-free energy exchange and hate is more of a closed, attenuated system of energy exchange, both of which bind us to each other, in easily identifiable, though divergent manners.  As we know, love is the open channel that compassion may flow through, while hatred is the closed channel that traumatizes both the receiver and the giver, of that energy.

Indifference is a quality of attention that attempts to keep everybody and everything separate from the observer, and the emotionally detached individual is choosing to live in a closed system or spiritual vacuum. Those practicing total indifference live in an isolated world, with little real emotional connection with anybody or anything other than their own emotions, thoughts and feelings. Indifference is oftentimes the result of traumatic influences and results in the emotional and spiritual oppression of others, and repression of the personal spirit, as well. For most normal people, indifference is only applied to special situations and is not applied to a complete life experience. Yet, the quality of indifference gives the practitioner the illusory sense of having no personal accountability to that which is being witnessed. Personal responsibility for a collectively shared error in the heart is denied, and the potential for a shared healing experience is negated.

What is Empathy?

Empathy, in both its positive and negative expressions, is a name for the mechanism for transporting emotional energy to create a form of resonance or connection between sentient beings and is always in play in both love and hate relationships. In positive empathy, energy flows freely in both directions, between the “giver” and the “receiver.” There is a shared sense of the expansion of the self. In negative empathy, energy flow is uneven, and dominated by one party, potentially resulting in forms of oppression of the other, and repression of aspects of the self, by the giver, and, potentially, the repression of aspects of the self by the receiver. There is a strong sense of the contraction of the self by at least one party in this energy exchange.

Contemporary research into neuroscience tells us that our brains, like those of other primates, contain mirror neurons. These neurons are triggered in our brains when someone else is sad, angry, or happy, and those mirror neurons, in coordination with other pre-cognitive and cognitive functions, help us to feel what we would experience if we were in that person’s place.  If our experiences are similar enough, we can empathize in a way that promotes a connection, which can be soothing to the other person. The effort to understand someone else, when made in good faith, can go a long way towards helping them feel better and even, sometimes, to change their behaviors. This can be considered to be a collaboration between the spirit of the individuals in communication. The changing of another’s behavior is not the conscious intention of empathy, though most find that through the empathetic connection, each participant is taken beyond the former boundaries of their understanding of self and others.

Human beings are usually quite empathetic beings. Studies are showing that all animals, especially those mammalian in nature, share in this oftentimes sublime characteristic. It is very difficult to harm another person if we can sense the suffering that they are presently experiencing, or that we may be causing them.

Empathy has been found to have not just a positive aspect to it, but empathy can also drag an unsuspecting empath into the ditch with someone who may be of low consciousness. It might be termed negative empathy, which is a state of being so sensitive to other people’s experiences that we become overwhelmed by their suffering, to the point where we begin to suffer ourselves. This has the opposite effect of the collaboration that occurs through positive empathy, instead becoming an alliance of shared mutual personal pain, which eventually results in new forms of emotional isolation. The extreme form of this empathy is the stigmata syndrome, where the empath takes on so much of the suffering energy and experience of a hated or a treasured person, that they manifest in their bodies and minds the wounds and symptoms of the person that they have become obsessed with.

Empathy, positive or negative, is one of several powerful transmission vehicles for human collective consciousness to be carried to us as individuals, as well as acting as a return vehicle for our individual experiences to be delivered back to the collective field. Collective consciousness contains the knowledge that human beings have accrued over eons of time. It contains a vast matrix of dedicated/fixed pathways of responses to all manors of environmental and social interactions. This is the entirety of our species’ training that has been transmitted to, or handed down to, countless generations of human beings, through parental interactions, education, religious training, and the lifelong social and emotional training gained by our continuous interface with other members of our species. Yet, as so much of this common knowledge is a result of incomplete or inaccurate information, and is the accumulation of all the theories embedded in our cultural past. If we act in a knee-jerk reaction, or unconscious manner, to any societal or environmental stimulus, our response is all too likely to be dated and inappropriate. The Judeo/Christian religious metaphor here is that our “first born” thought may need to be “sacrificed” to make way for the truth of the moment.

Hate and Love

Constructive anger is spontaneous, arising from being an active witness of the present moment, and is always relevant, and productive, wakes up the oppressed and repressed spirit, and helps generate extra motivational energy for constructive engagement with a world needing change. Constructive anger gives all parties involved an opportunity to share in the perception of a wrong or injustice and share in a plan to right the wrongs. Hatred and its divisive energy, on the other hand, has much deliberation behind it.

Hatred arises from the historical deposits of unresolved anger or repressed pain and suffering within our memories and looks at punishment and/or the destruction of others as a primary objective. Hatred develops from the collective deposits of darkness that our culture has handed down to us over many generations, as well as also arising from our personal painful and negative memories incurred throughout our lives. Hatred, both collectively and individually acquired, becomes entrenched as a mostly unconscious dark power broker within our minds, keeping each of us pilloried to the past, and emotionally chained to the object(s) of our hatred. We are no longer free to respond to each new moment as it unfolds, instead substituting old patterns of self-defeating and oppressive responses to others while repressing the desire to connect with peace and love.

According to the latest research on the human brain and its capacity to form perceptions, the brain works by “predictive coding.” It integrates new information based on the beliefs provided by old information. A typical human being moving through the world is not just passively perceiving sensory inputs through the senses, but actually assembles a model in the mind based on what is expected to be seen. This mental setup allows the perceiver to move unbothered through the world, taking in each detail without too much analysis. The brain has been found to have the capacity to over-predict, at times expecting something to be there that is not. That expectation can, literally, create a self-hypnotic suggestion, and a non-existent thing can be perceived as if it was there. This fact has been verified by mystics, sages, and now, quantum theorists, so it should not be passed over like an unpopular dish at dinner time.

Historically, the human race has fallen prey to toxic leadership. As human beings in social environments, we have come to expect that our leaders will lead with integrity and morality, though inevitable weaknesses will occasionally make themselves evident.  If our leader is of high enough integrity, we may even want to pattern ourselves after them, should we also aspire to any leadership roles in our future, including taking charge of our own lives.  Patterning after others who are successful is considered to be a normal and natural response, while also being an evolutionary adaptation.  To survive, and prosper as a species, we became willing to adopt attitudes and perform actions that others may have succeeded with in the past, as well as remaining open to any new unfoldment in our understanding that will complement our unique role.

Yet, there are many times when we pattern ourselves after an adored member of the status quo or the institutionalized understanding of the past, and we may be led down deceptive paths of reasoning, with resultant poor social and personal health decisions and outcomes.  We may become subtly, or profoundly, traumatized through these relationships. “What would Jesus do?” can be a benign question, and may even lead the Christian-oriented questioner down a more spiritually centered path, as long it does not lead to more conformity to dogma or the practicing of other systems of traumatic oppression such as the religion’s historical institutionalized misanthropy, including misogyny and racism.

We all suffered because of the collective narrative of hatred being shared by the victims and their accusers. The only way to permanently remove spiritual eyesores from our vision is to heal our inner sight, realizing that profound changes in our consciousness eventually impact our world, remembering that, “All that we will ever see unto eternity is ourselves.” Because our minds are inextricably intertwined with the collective consciousness of the world, we will continue to have ample opportunities to bring healing to the world, and to our sense of self.

What can be most difficult to consider is the truth that people who habitually hate others also hate themselves. Some may try to hide from self-loathing and hatred through false narratives of their greatness while deriding and demeaning all unlike self. The multitude of lies and deceptive behavior, and the need to manipulate others’ perceptions show an absolute need to hide from the truth a diminished sense of self.  This is manifested through continuously projecting out of this mind, by accusing the innocent, and the guilty, of one’s own personal shortcomings, deceptions, and criminality.

This communication style is absolutely crazy making for any rational, intelligent human being, and the witness to his expression can feel like the fabric of sanity is being ripped apart right before their eyes. For those not under a hypnotic trance, this spiritual depravity is easily perceived and felt. The unwary watcher, in an involuntary and forced relationship with this disfigured being, through negative empathy can inadvertently share in others hatred of self. This is a manifestation of the stigmata syndrome, where the entrained observer inadvertently takes on the negative energy of the person under observation, and through the mirror neuron phenomenon, or negative empathy, shares in the disfigured spirit that this darkness continues to manifest.

Mindfulness allows for us to see what is immediately before us, and choose between the knowns of the past, and the unknown present. Forgiveness is an openness to the mystery of the present. Forgiveness, however, does not forget or excuse the offender from his misdeeds, especially while the offender continues abhorrent behavior. Forgiveness releases the practitioner from the damage of incurring negative perceptions of others. We still must act consciously and decisively against all forces that continue to imperil our lives, our family’s lives, and the life of our planet. We must continue to be willing to speak truth to power, whether the power is in the White House, or in our hearts.

Love unifies, while hate fragments and traumatizes. As human beings, we must be conscious enough to choose the best way to present ourselves to the world, and to ourselves, as we face the challenges of the insanity within our world. Our world is in greatest need of hearts that are expanding through mutual positive empathy, rather than contracting through negative empathy, or indifference. We did not create the world as it is now, we cannot control it, nor can we cure it. But we can evolve, and, collectively, we can address the disease of the spirit that is dominating our world civilization, and which continues to bring devastation to our world, and to all of the life upon it.

We must sacrifice our misunderstandings of who we mistakenly thought that we were, and who and what we thought the rest of creation is, allowing for the new universal truth to resurrect our understanding of self and others. Failure to do so will make us more vulnerable to unconsciousness, where the process of negative empathy, and in the extreme, collective suffering and the stigmata syndrome, may expose us to spiritual chaos and potentially death. The world will always be reminding us how far we are, collectively, from healing. We do our best to remain engaged with the world, while not allowing the world to overrun our morals, ethics, and spiritual intentions. And we need not spiritually die because of the “sins” of the world, whether it is toxic capitalism, toxic masculinity (and patriarchy), toxic politics, or toxic religion. We always retain freedom of choice and must exercise and accept personal responsibility for those choices, in all of our lives. If our choices bring harm to ourselves or to each other, we are free to choose again. We make amends wherever possible after any error in our presentation, which keeps our empathy channels fully open.

We must remain spiritually vigilant as we continue to be a conscious presence engaging with a world still dominated by toxic masculinity, toxic politics, toxic capitalism, and toxic religion. We must be able to access our anger, not hatred, as we address the injustices wrought upon the human soul through the ignorance and toxicity of others. Love will be our guardian as we make the difficult confrontations with those who do not respect, or honor, the wholeness of life on our Mother Earth that we all share together in love and in truth.

Anger, Self Awareness, and Mastery

There are those purporting to be spiritual teachers and advisors, who are admonishing their followers to abhor using human emotions with their dealings with the public. Specifically, I frequently hear that a requirement for maintaining spiritual integrity is to not express anger in any form, and instead to substitute “loving thoughts” and “forgiving actions.” Really?

These so-called spiritual savants, or gurus from foreign lands, must not have families. What is the real teaching here, do you think? It is so much easier to talk about love and light for all beings, especially when one does not have to deal directly with the most challenging of human relationships. From the middle of 1987 to early 1988, I spent over six hours a day in meditation and prayer, and I had very few problems with my relationships with people. I lived in perfect peace and harmony within myself. Also, I had no children, or nobody to call me on my isolation and (potential) loneliness. All in all, it was beautiful for me, yet totally disengaged from the challenges of integration into society, and family and friendship development. I value my time in the real world, where the beauty, and the pain, of human existence is my greatest teacher. Mysticism has a place in our world, yet I struggle to find how to best stay in alignment with its ecstasy and enlightenment while maintaining a normal human experience. Perhaps I will drink again from its deep waters when I have finally wearied of this world.

If our minds are fed anything other than facts, especially within established communities of human beings, we create illusions, and our worlds tend to end up in chaos. The result is individual and cultural hypnosis and schizophrenia, where we can end up losing personal power, and we can be too easily bullied by the wayward opinions and false insights of others. Too often those who claim to have real knowledge are as lost as everybody else, even though they may be claiming righteousness, religious or otherwise. When we try to fit into a situation or setting where our heart tells us we don’t belong, honor those feelings and investigate where they are coming from. If we feel that we are already swimming in the divine ocean, then we can watch and wait, see who is swimming with us, and join with them as indicated (or reach out and help lift another up, as they request help). Our cultural spiritual dementia needs to be challenged, lest we all lapse into deeper degrees of anxiousness, powerlessness, and unreality. Confronting a difficult reality takes more energy than most of us care to bring to the table, yet, not doing so diminishes our standing in truth, life, and love.

On the other hand, an institutionalized expression of anger becomes hatred in disguise, and that characterizes the oppressive nature of far too many male-originated, and dominated, philosophies. When anger becomes an automatic response to all situations where the threat is perceived, then the intelligence of the moment is denied, and we are susceptible to bringing needless harm to our bodies and our minds, as well as to other.

When I was eight, my family went on a camping trip with another family, and during the stay, the dad of the other family, Bob, severely overreacted to my sister and me. When we told my parents that he’d become excessively angry and threatening to us, my father confronted him about his rage. Bob got angry again, denied that he threatened us, and then commanded me to get my story straight before complaining about his behavior in the future. Several years later, while in a fit of rage with his wife, he intentionally crashed his car head-on into another car at a high rate of speed, killing himself and crippling his wife for life. The act of calling out someone for being disrespectful or engaging in hurtful behavior will not necessarily guarantee any immediate positive outcomes, but it disrupts the conspiracy of silence, if only for a moment.

Repression and oppression help nobody in the long run, though they maintain an order of false peace and control for the status quo. In the seeing, or the development of insight into self, change is facilitated. Everybody needs to become more conscious of the self and fine-tune how we respond to our emotions. Most importantly, we must accept personal responsibility for our emotions, see how they impact ourselves and others, and make necessary adjustments in the course if we have behaved inappropriately.

Constructive Anger and How to Respond

Anger is a natural, normal response, in any particular new moment, to any assault on our being, on those that we love, or on our inner sensibilities. Anger, among all other emotions, and in balance with those aspects of our self, helps us to manage our response to the outer world, which is, at times, quite the aggressive, distressed, ugly, and oppressive environment. Anger is not positive or negative energy, it is human energy, and like all aspects of our humanity, it needs to be understood in the context from which it arises and when and how it expresses itself.

Anger can bring fear to the unaware among us, because of an incomplete or unhealed response to its expression in their past. We have all been persecuted, at one time or another (or many times), by the angry parent, boss, co-worker, or stranger driving next to us in a car. Or, how about the rapist, or child molester, who tries to attack us, or our children? According to classic psychology, humans engage in fight or flight behavior when they experience fear and/or perceive that they are being attacked. Whether we choose one or the other depends on any number of circumstances, and one size does not fit all.

We all feel a need to be in control and to conform to social norms, especially those “norms” expressed in the Common Knowledge Game that dominate the unaware human consciousness. Philosophies and theologies that stress the need to repress aspects of our human nature should not be accepted at face value. By their very nature, any umbrella philosophy or theology devalues the intelligence of the moment and intentionally and/or unwittingly contributes to the suppression and repression of sacred human values and emotions.

Anger, when balanced, keeps us as complete beings, capable of accessing and expressing the wholeness of our being with emotionally intelligent actions appropriate to the activity of the moment. In other words, we can get mad. We can express our anger in appropriate ways. Doing so is beneficial.

There is wisdom deep inside us all, waiting to inform all of our thoughts and actions in this world. And, this world requires ultimate intelligence to navigate through it successfully, without bringing harm to ourselves and others needlessly. Anger and fear are not to be repressed by any healthy human being, but instead are to be witnessed, studied, and utilized intelligently for wise action in this troubled world. In the words of Bob Marley, “Get up, stand up, stand up for your rights!” But, make sure that the anger is appropriate to the moment, and not some formulaic response that the non-healed, unbalanced nature within your self offers up under many questionable circumstances.

To respond successfully in anger, we need to measure how mindfully we can engage these threats, and successfully group our thoughts and actions, with others also engaged in the situation, to either fight the oppressors, or to speak our truth, and be heard. We do not engage in mass protests because we want to go for a walk with a bunch of strangers, we engage in protests because we want our voices heard. Channeled anger is an effective, time-tested method for standing up to those who would keep us silent in the face of their misdeeds.

Anecdotally, we hear of those rare few who have successfully mitigated dark, evil circumstances, through some fortunate intervention through prayer, or luck, where those who are attacking us somehow are diverted, and move their aggression elsewhere. Stories of Gandhi’s non-violent protest against British occupancy of India’s lands get a lot of play in so-called spiritually aware circles. Remember, though, the many years of British occupation before that stand, and Britain’s diminishing will to keep their empire extended throughout the world. We only need to watch the news or read the paper to see that these anecdotal stories do not embrace the reality underlying most of the final acts, and resulting actions, of the aggressive ones. Murder, rape, child molesting, intimidation, oppression, misogyny, road rage, terrorism, and paternal violence in all of their forms, keep manifesting themselves, and have throughout all of history. Those who are inspired to make peaceful approaches to these problems must continue, yet, so do those who aggressively confront the forces of oppression and darkness.

I had very poor training since birth in how to successfully navigate group energy, up to, and including, the whole of society that we all participate in. As a boy, when family discussions turned into arguments, many times I found myself either raising my voice against the angry voice of my father or retreating into submission and fear at the threat of being attacked for being contrary to the flow. And I internalized that I was probably wrong anyway and would be punished if I stepped out and asserted myself too much. I learned that I could undertake less obvious means of rebelling against authority, sometimes through indirect, or obvious, self, or other, destructive behavior.

Passive-aggressive tendencies have haunted me most of my entire life, and becoming self-aware has gone a long way to keep me from employing those unskilled coping mechanisms unconsciously, though I am still occasionally haunted by their presence. Doing the inner work of insight, maintaining mindfulness, and identifying those sources of suffering within myself have not instantaneously removed all of the darkness within. But it also has not removed from me the responsibility to call out those who are the external agents of oppression and repression, no matter how much I might love them or want to protect them, or even to protect myself from the ramifications of asserting what is right, true, or proper in any situation.

Alcoholism, depression, mental illness, murder, suicide, participating in the continued destruction of our sacred Mother Earth, and other manifestations of disempowered male energy can be the results of loss of integrity, and stifling one’s feelings and voice. And, this is not yet another spiritual theory, this is the actuality of American male life, and of my life. Sitting in meditation, and or quoting other spiritually enlightened individuals may have brought me a temporary measure of peace, but this whole process became yet another opiate, and it never brought the change required by my spirit for its emergence into its unique wholeness. Thoughts and prayers are great preparation for action, but, without action, thoughts and prayers are only mental masturbation.

Achieving Higher Consciousness

As we see the totality of the movement of thought as time, and its nature of keeping us tethered to a past, or to a future that is always an extension of this past, we can free ourselves from those illusory controls. We can live a life based on the ever unfolding now, or present moment, thus unleashing vast reservoirs of intuition and spiritual power.

Each of us are being with infinite potential. Yet, each of us must break free from the conditioning of our personal past, and our cultural past. Four pillars are supporting higher consciousness, which are:

  • Negative: through negating what is not real, seeing what might be real,
  • Positive: through constantly affirming the goodness inherent in life, reading the writings of mystical poets and saints, and being a grateful participant of life, we may experience Grace.
  • Transformative: through re-creating or re-birthing ourselves through educational means and/or mystical connection, and bringing forth a new person, or our new understanding of our self, into the world, in the image and likeness of a more universal consciousness.
  • Creative: developing and/or expressing our innate ability to co-create with the Universe, by expressing ourselves through art, music, writing, or other means. We must access the deepest of desires to transcend the boundaries of self and to reimagine our existence.

We must travel new paths of consciousness, letting go of all controls that keep us tethered to the past, with its incomplete perceptions and understandings. In the end, no teacher will effect our salvation, for it is a personal journey, where we must accept responsibility for the totality of our lives, and make all necessary adjustments in the course that will take us to our spiritual goals. We can actually rebirth ourselves, into a new understanding that the Universe has birthed itself in an infinitude of forms through the portal of Mother Earth, and each of us is “one verse” of the song of creation.

The further along the path of Truth and Love that we travel, the more that we understand that all we will ever see, unto eternity, are extensions of our Self. How we see ourselves today determines the quality of Love and Truth that we manifest in our lives. How we see ourselves today determines how much spiritual power can be brought to our damaged planet, which is now dependent upon us. How we see ourselves today determines how much, as awakening beings, we can bring healing to our shared, damaged human consciousness. There is no power in Heaven or on Earth greater than “I am.”

Hatred, indifference, positive or negative empathy, love, healing, or mutual destruction are parts of our infinite potentiality. The choice is ours to make for our own unique life experience, when we have become more healed and conscious There is a silence within each of us attempting to inform our consciousness as to how to best exercise our free will. What is our choice today? The silence continues to reach out to the turbulence within our world and to bring balance back to our unbalanced souls.

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Understanding and Managing Emotions: Empathy, Indifference, Hatred, Love, and Compassion

Emotions are the threads that weave through the tapestry of our lives. They color our experiences, shape our relationships, and influence the society we live in. To truly understand ourselves and others, we must delve into the depths of these complex emotions: empathy, indifference, hatred, love, and compassion. In this blog post, we’ll explore the psychological basis of these emotions, their impact on personal relationships, their influence on societal dynamics, and practical strategies for managing and understanding them. Let’s dive in!

The Psychological Basis of Emotions

To comprehend emotions, we must first recognize their origins. Each emotion has a unique psychological basis, shaped by our experiences, upbringing, and neurobiology. By understanding the underlying processes, we can unlock the power of these emotions in our lives.

Impact on Personal Relationships

Our ability to empathize, show indifference, express hatred, love deeply, and practice compassion greatly impacts our personal relationships. Empathy fosters connection and understanding, while indifference can create distance and apathy. Hatred breeds hostility and erodes bonds, while love nurtures intimacy and strengthens relationships. Compassion is the bridge that allows us to extend kindness and support to others. By exploring these emotions, we can navigate the complex terrain of our personal connections.

Influence on Societal Dynamics

Emotions not only shape our personal relationships but also significantly impact the dynamics of society. Empathy builds bridges, fostering social cohesion and understanding. Indifference, however, can lead to societal apathy and the erosion of collective responsibility. Hatred, when left unchecked, fuels conflicts and perpetuates discrimination. On the other hand, love acts as a catalyst for positive change, inspiring unity and progress. Compassion nurtures a caring society, promoting altruism and support for one another.

Strategies for Managing and Understanding Emotions

To navigate the intricate landscape of emotions, we must develop strategies for managing and understanding them.

  • Developing Emotional Intelligence: Cultivate self-awareness and empathy to navigate your own emotions and understand others.
  • Practicing Self-Reflection and Empathy: Engage in introspection to understand the roots of your emotions and embrace empathy to connect with others on a deeper level.
  • Cultivating a Loving Mindset: Foster love within yourself and radiate it outward to create positive change in your relationships and the world.
  • Building Resilience and Compassion: Strengthen your resilience to cope with negative emotions and cultivate compassion to extend support to others.
  • Practical Exercises and Steps: Explore practical exercises and actionable steps to manage and understand these emotions in your daily life.

Conclusion

Emotions hold immense power over our lives, influencing our thoughts, actions, and connections. By understanding and managing empathy, indifference, hatred, love, and compassion, we embark on a journey of personal growth and transformation. Let’s strive to cultivate emotional intelligence, practice empathy, and embrace love and compassion in our lives. Together, we can create a world filled with understanding, connection, and shared humanity.

Categories: Musings

Bruce

Presently, I am 67 years old, and I am learning how to live the life of a retired person. I am married to Sharon White, a retired hospice nurse, and writer. Whose Death Is It Anyway-A Hospice Nurse Remembers Sharon is a wonderful friend and life partner of nearly 30 years. We have three grandsons through two of Sharon's children. I am not a published writer or poet. My writings are part of my new life in retirement. I have recently created a blog, and I began filling it up with my writings on matters of recovery and spirituality. I saw that my blog contained enough material for a book, so that is now my new intention, to publish a book, if only so that my grandsons can get to know who their grandfather really was, once I am gone. The title for my first book will be: Penetrating The Conspiracy Of Silence, or, How I Lived Beyond My Expiration Date I have since written 7 more books, all of which are now posted on this site. I have no plans to publish any of them, as their material is not of general interest, and would not generate enough income to justify costs. I have taken a deep look at life, and written extensively about it from a unique and rarely communicated perspective. Some of my writing is from 2016 on to the present moment. Other writing covers the time prior to 1987 when I was a boy, then an addict and alcoholic, with my subsequent recovery experience, and search for "Truth". Others are about my more recent experiences around the subjects of death, dying, and transformation, and friends and family having the most challenging of life's experiences. There are also writings derived from my personal involvement with and insight into toxic masculinity, toxic religion, toxic capitalism, and all of their intersections with our leadere. These topics will not be a draw for all people, as such personal and/or cultural toxicities tends to get ignored, overlooked, or "normalized" by those with little time for insight, introspection, or interest in other people's points of view on these troubling issues. There also will be a couple of writings/musings about "GOD", but I try to limit that kind of verbal gymnastics, because it is like chasing a sunbeam with a flashlight. Yes, my books are non-fiction, and are not good reading for anybody seeking to escape and be entertained. Some of the writings are spiritual, philosophical and intellectual in nature, and some descend the depths into the darkest recesses of the human mind. I have included a full cross section of all of my thoughts and feelings. It is a classic "over-share", and I have no shame in doing so. A Master Teacher once spoke to me, and said "no teacher shall effect your salvation, you must work it out for yourself". "Follow new paths of consciousness by letting go of all of the mental concepts and controls of your past". This writing represents my personal work towards that ultimate end.